Co-parenting isn’t easy. But it can be easier when you remember that it’s not about you or your ex: it’s about the kids. We’ve compiled a few of our favorite resources to help you start out on the right foot.
What it is: A calendar with magnets representing Mom, Dad, appointments and activities that kids can rearrange based on visitation schedule.
Why we love it: Involving your kids by letting them visualize their own schedule helps them feel informed and in control. When your kids know “the plan” they feel like they’re part of it – and they can help you implement it.
What it is: An app that encompasses the whole range of co-parenting needs – financial, documentation, geo pinpointing, scheduling, communication – for the entire time you’re co-parenting.
Why we love it: We love the efficiency and ease of the app, and all the tools they provide within for constructive communication, argument diffusion and emotional support.
What it is: Dr. Robert Emery is a recognized expert in family relationships and children’s mental health, including parental conflict, divorce, and child custody. His sample co-parenting plans provide thoughtful questions to consider about your own situation, and he provides important reminders along the way, such as: there is no such thing as an “ideal” custody sharing schedule.
Why we love it: These co-parenting plan templates are not just offered by your child’s age, they’re also offered by the type of situation you and your ex may find yourselves in, be it cooperative, long-distance, or angry.
What it is: Hosted by two top-notch divorce attorneys, this podcast showcases others’ divorce and breakup stories. You’ll laugh, you’ll reflect, and you might even see yourself in some of the guests.
Why we love it: Every episode is a terrific reminder that you are not alone. Listen here and we promise you won’t regret it.
What it is: Up to Parents is a website created by a therapist and a criminal defense attorney – both of whom have experienced divorce with children – who wanted to create a free resource that helped divorcing parents stay focused on their children as the co-parenting relationship begins.
Why we love it: Through videos and interactive content, Up to Parents lets you work at your own pace to think through your child/children’s needs. You’ll work through exercises that help you think and feel from your child’s perspective and that help you focus on the positive experiences you can create for your child to help them have a happy childhood. We love the reminders along the way that despite the differences you may have, you and your ex will always have your children in common, and it is only the two of you who can ensure their interests remain front and center in this new chapter of your family life.