6 ways forgiving your ex gives you power

You’ve probably heard the phrase “forgive and forget” many times and it’s probably made you roll your eyes concerning your ex. After all, how can you forget all the pain and frustration they put you through? Truth is, you probably won’t forget, at least for a long time. But luckily, you can easily forgive — and the sooner, the better. Forgiveness instantly gives you power — the power to heal, give and receive love, and attract more of what you want

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Is your ex passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, or assertive?

Ever feel like you’re speaking a different language than someone who should understand you perfectly — like your ex? Chances are, you have different communication styles. This can lead to misunderstandings, frustration and fights.  The four main communication styles are: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive and assertive. As hard as we try to be clear, kind and assertive, emotions often muddle things up. You might find that you use a mix of communication styles and that certain people bring out negative tendencies

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DOWNLOAD: The Hello Divorce Planning Checklist

This checklist outlines the major tasks you may need to complete before, during, and after your divorce. Hello Divorce helps make this process as easy and affordable as possible. Use this checklist to help you plan, and reach out to us to schedule a FREE intro call or select one of our less-stress divorce plans. Download the Hello Divorce Planning Checklist Have questions? Schedule a FREE 15 minute intro call with our team of divorce managers. Want more downloads? Access our complete library of worksheets, lists, and planning guides here.

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What is “Separate Property”?

In a community property state, what is separate property?

Separate property is any asset or debt that was acquired before the marriage or after separation, or any property that was received through a gift or inheritance at any point, or any earnings deriving from a separate property source during the marriage. Timing is the key issue in determining whether property is community or separate. Property characterization is crucial for determining the division of assets and debts in a divorce. For the most part, anything acquired by one spouse up to the day before marriage is considered separate property, and anything acquired after the spouses separate from each other is also considered separate.

The date of separate can be contentious, as it is not necessarily the same date one party leaves the marital residence. Rather, it is the date that one party decides to end the marriage, coupled with a positive action to be separate. This action can be something like opening a separate bank account, filing for divorce, or even something as simple as announcing separation to the other. If the parties cannot agree on a date of separation, the court must decide. Courts will usually err on the side of a later date as opposed to earlier, in order to include more community property in the division. You can see how this could be a thorny issue, particularly if a spouse has received a huge bonus, closed a big deal, or earned some other asset shortly before separation.

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WORKSHEET: Create Your Co-Parenting Plan

We’ve created a worksheet for you and your ex to use to plan your ideal co-parenting arrangements, so you can make sure everyone is on the same page when it comes to your kids. Download the Parenting Plan Worksheet Have questions? Schedule a FREE 15 minute strategy session with our team of divorce experts. Divorce Process Flowchart How to Talk to Your Ex About Spousal/Child Support

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DOWNLOAD: The Hello Divorce Planning ChecklistDOWNLOAD: The Hello Divorce Planning ChecklistWORKSHEET: Create Your Co-Parenting PlanWORKSHEET: Create Your Co-Parenting PlanDOWNLOAD: What to Include in Your Settlement AgreementDOWNLOAD: What to Include in Your Settlement AgreementDownload: Property Division SpreadsheetDownload: Property Division SpreadsheetBreaking Down Common Parenting Time Schedules: Which Plan is Right for You?Breaking Down Common Parenting Time Schedules: Which Plan is Right for You?10 (New) Terms to Include in Your Co-Parenting Agreement as a Result of COVID-19 (+ Checklist!)10 (New) Terms to Include in Your Co-Parenting Agreement as a Result of COVID-19 (+ Checklist!)Download: The Ultimate Guide to Divorce MediationDownload: The Ultimate Guide to Divorce MediationPositive Vibes Tear-SheetPositive Vibes Tear-SheetWorksheet: Dating After DivorceWorksheet: Dating After DivorceChecklist: Shared Custody & VisitationChecklist: Shared Custody & Read More

DOWNLOAD: What to Include in Your Settlement Agreement

There are standard forms and processes all divorces require, but it’s the settlement agreement that embodies the nitty-gritty elements specific to you and your spouse’s assets and life. We’ve created a checklist for you to conveniently refer to, so you can ensure all items necessary to confirm your agreement are addressed (also known as the marital settlement agreement or divorce judgment). Download the Settlement Agreement Checklist Have questions? Schedule a FREE 15 minute strategy session with our team of divorce experts. Divorce Process Flowchart How to Talk to Your Ex About Spousal/Child Support

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Dos and don’ts for what to wear in court

You’re probably familiar with the career advice “dress for the job you want regardless of the job you have” (or lack thereof). What you wear sends messages about who you are to others, and can empower you to be your best self. Dressing for success in court can indeed help your side. So, how should you dress? The short answer is: dress in whatever makes you feel good about your case. You need to look polished yet comfortable. For some,

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Download: Property Division Spreadsheet

It’s totally possible to divide your stuff without a lot of bickering or resentment. Use the resource below to help determine who (fairly) gets what. And if it resonates with you, use this quote to help you stay focused on what really matters: “If it’s not going to matter to you in a few years, don’t spend more than a few minutes agonizing over it.”  So, how to get started? First, make a spreadsheet and list all of your property that you and your spouse may have trouble dividing. Download Example Spreadsheet Then, follow these tips: Any items on the list that were gifts are separate property and belong to the person to whom they were gifted. Note this on

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The waiting game: How to deal with big decisions before your divorce is final

Did you know that the divorce “waiting period” – the time you need to wait between filing your initial divorce paperwork and getting your final divorce decree – can be upwards of 6 months or more, depending on what state you live in? So, what happens if during that time you and your spouse live in separate households? How will you continue to pay your bills? How will you and your spouse share parenting time and where will the kids

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