Everyone knows someone who has been or is getting divorced. Divorce isn’t rocket science. But it is confusing, and a process. It’s essentially filing a lawsuit and, as we all know, when a lawsuit is filed, you enter the legal system. If you’ve ever dealt with a bureaucracy before (think: a frustrating encounter with the Department of Motor Vehicles), you know that there’s a game and you have to play it (correctly), to get through it.
First off, what is divorce? You’d think it would be obvious. After all, everyone knows someone who has been or is getting divorced. But it’s not. Divorce isn’t rocket science. But it’s confusing and a process. It’s essentially filing a lawsuit and as we all know, when a lawsuit is filed, you enter the legal system. & if you’ve ever dealt with a bureaucracy before (think: a frustrating encounter with the Department of Motor Vehicles), you know that there’s a…Read More
Your relationship is over but you’ve waited to have the “Dear John” talk. Here’s how to do it (nicely). It may seem insensitive or trivial. Who do I think I am – writing your “Dear John” letter; your script to break the news to your spouse that you want a divorce? But here’s the thing. It stresses everyone out. No one can sleep the days, weeks and sometimes months or years before they tell their spouse they want out. Hundreds of people have asked me how to approach this crucial step in the process. So, I created a guide. These are just suggestions – but, maybe you’ll use it verbatim. Maybe you’ll find the “right words” after you read this.…
I’m willing to bet that there isn’t anyone reading this post right now who hasn’t experienced heartbreak. Whether you’re going through it right now or cringing at the memory of a bad breakup in the past, you know how it feels. It sucks. Being sad might be the only feeling that feels good, beyond diving into a pint of Häagen Dazs or keeping your best friend on the phone for hours analyzing every second leading up to the breakup. Or,…Read More
It’s not a misspelling. It’s actually a meaningful acronym: Family Advocacy is Your Responsibility, or Fayr, a new(ish) co-parenting app that has quickly become my favorite to recommend – and it will be yours soon, too, if you’re looking for a thoughtfully designed co-parenting tool. Michael Daniels created Fayr to manage his own co-parenting relationship. After he and his wife divorced, he found himself spending more time tracking paperwork, daily logs and receipts – that he was later accused of…Read More
There are probably a million (or more) things you would rather be doing instead of negotiating a divorce deal with your ex. I get it. Especially when it comes to spousal support – such a hot button issue. So, I reached out to industry experts to get the best tips for how to discuss spousal support, to help you start the conversation on the most solid footing possible. Temporary vs Permanent Support “Some states have formulas which must be used…Read More
NEW! Our Divorce Navigator is LIVE! Complete and print official versions of California’s 20+ mandatory forms through our new app. Get access via your DIY Divorce subscription, and save $50 off your first month with code DIVNAV50. (Read more here.) For 10 years I have owned and operated a boutique family law firm in the San Francisco Bay Area. Every month, without fail, we receive one or two requests from people who used a do-it-yourself (DIY) legal website and had some kind of…Read More
If you are going through divorce with kids, you’ve likely been looking for ways to talk to them about what’s going on. You may have read some of the great resources and articles here on Hello Divorce about co-parenting, like How to Succeed at Raising Your Kids Together, Apart or 5 Co-Parenting Plan Resources We Love. If you have, you’ll have seen several mentions of Mighty + Bright. I adore Mighty + Bright and refer many of my clients to…Read More
Learning that your ex has sought legal help is *not* a reason to panic. They should get advice from an expert – and you should, too. The more information both parties have, the more amicable the divorce process can be.
Divorce is hard. Even a fairly amicable one. One of the first (outwardly) difficult parts includes breaking the news to those you friends and/or family members you know and love. After you’ve told your kids (if you have them), who do you tell next? At what point during the divorce process should you tell people? And how exactly do you tell people about a life change you may not be ready to discuss in detail? No two divorces are alike,…Read More