Home Will Never Be the Same Again: The Impact of Divorce on Adult Children

When older people divorce, we often overlook the impact this decision has on the couple’s adult children. The disruption and pain that occurs because of this “gray divorce”—a reference to the hair color older people frequently have—is often minimized or dismissed. Adult children are treated as if they are only marginal players in an extremely significant disruption in their family life, even though they are major stakeholders in their parents’ divorce. The family they have known their entire lives is

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What It’s Like Being the Kid of Parents Who Divorced Well

It’s not surprising that divorce can take a psychological toll on children. It’s a big, scary unknown for everyone involved and many kids struggle with feelings of anxiety, distress, anger, fear, and disbelief, especially in the beginning. It can be really tough for them to process these emotions as well as adjust to changes to daily routines and new living arrangements. Divorce basically rocks the world they’ve counted on every day. But kids are also super resilient and have a

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Co-parenting through divorce

How to Co-Parent on the Same Team

I think it’s safe to say that no one arrives in a blended family as their first choice. A marriage didn’t go according to plan and the redirect happened. For me, my first marriage ended quite abruptly (from my side, at least). And while there were layers of pain and grief that went into the decision to divorce, I know now it was the right one for us. It was far from what I wanted in the beginning, but years

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Yes, you can still get a divorce. Even during a global pandemic.

Divorce during a global pandemic sounds complicated but it doesn’t have to be… We genuinely love our partners when we say “I do.” Many of us still love them even when it’s time for divorce. Just…not in the same way. Or maybe we don’t love them anymore. That’s not an indictable offense. These are normal life changes — not crimes or sins — and they’re no reason to turn feelings of guilt and shame into fire aimed at a partner.

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