help with divorce

Who Can Help With My Divorce?

Divorce is a life-changing process that requires significant time, thought, and planning. DIY divorce helps you divorce your way, but you should not try to go through it entirely on your own. Spending a little time and money on help when you really need it is worthwhile. Fortunately, there is a lot of help available—and much of it is affordable. Here, we list out all the main “helpers” involved in a divorce. From making smart decisions to dealing with ongoing

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Webinar Replay: How to Turn a Complicated Breakup into a Win-Win Divorce with Mediation

Never miss another webinar—sign up for our emails! Do you feel like the only way to get the resolution you want in your divorce is to lawyer up? That’s one of the most common misconceptions about divorce. You can actually get more of what you want, with far less expense and conflict, with mediation. If you have issues to resolve or complicated emotions to work through with your ex, you can get through your divorce without letting it take you

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5 Ways Smart People Succeed During Divorce

You just found out you’re getting divorced. Your mind is running 1,000 miles an hour. Will the kids be OK? Will I have enough money? Where am I going to live? I understand. I’ve been there, too. As a divorce lawyer and divorced father of two, I know this time is full of uncertainty. That’s why I wrote my bestselling book, I Just Want This Done: How Smart, Successful People Get Divorced Without Losing Their Kids, Money, and Minds.  Like

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solutions to common divorce problems

12 Little-Known Solutions to the Most Common Divorce “Problems”

After 16 years of helping people with divorce, I have a good sense of what is wrong with the divorce industry. At the top of the list is a lack of transparency for how it all works. This is partially brought on by the culture of lawyers hiding behind a fortress of information. Some attorneys fear you won’t need them if they give you answers. Even well-intentioned subject matter experts (i.e., divorce lawyers) often fail to provide a solution that

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communication breakdown keeping your divorce amicable

Communication Breakdown? Our ‘Go-To’ Mediation Expert Shares the Secret to Keeping Your Divorce Amicable (Your Kids Will Thank You!)

In my work as a mediator, I’ve yet to hear a client tell me they want their kids involved in their divorce. However, when divorcing parents avoid talking about what needs talking about, the outstanding issues lead to future conversations that are more challenging than they need to be, more complicated than they need to be, and more likely to affect the kids. “I don’t want to stir the pot. I’d prefer to keep things calm,” a client recently told

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Financial Mistakes to Avoid When Getting a Divorce

10 Financial Mistakes to Avoid When Getting a Divorce

After 16 years in the divorce industry, I’ve seen firsthand how mistakes in the divorce process can lead to a bad outcome. I don’t want that for you. That’s why I’m sharing exactly what to do to avoid making a move that could impact your economic well-being. Some of these you may have heard before (although it’s good to be reminded), but lots are even more important in light of COVID-19. Mistake 1: Ignoring your credit If all your credit

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How Coronavirus is Making Divorce Way Easier

Everywhere you turn, headlines read “Divorce Rate Skyrockets Amid Coronavirus Pandemic.” Same story, same anecdotal evidence from divorce lawyers. The truth is the more people spend time together in quarantine, the more their preexisting relationship issues are amplified. If they were struggling before COVID-19, their problems didn’t magically disappear during quarantine — instead, they led to a breaking point.  Makes sense. Approximately 70% of divorces are filed by women and only after their marriage was on the rocks for years.

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Non-Attorney Mediator

10 Benefits of Hiring a Non-Attorney Divorce Mediator

Let me start off by saying, “Thank God for lawyers.” People in the legal profession do amazingly complex work and often make it look easy. Am I the only one who’s super grateful for them? Now that you know I don’t hate lawyers, let me tell you why you should consider hiring a divorce mediator who is not an attorney. The family law structure in this country is super complex. It’s managed to make a tragic situation — the death

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emotional justice

You Won’t Get “Emotional Justice” in Divorce Court

Divorce, by its very nature, creates upheaval. It can bring about some of the strongest emotions a person has ever experienced: sadness, grief, anger, frustration, and despair—and sometimes even blame, shame, guilt, humiliation, rejection, hopelessness, or a desire for revenge. Even those divorcing amicably are bound to feel the emotional weight of ending a relationship with a person they once loved deeply (and maybe still do). All of these emotions influence how people handle the “business” part of a divorce.

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Why You Should Stop Delaying Your Divorce and Get On With It Already?

If you have been delaying your divorce or are separated from your spouse but haven’t yet filed for divorce, this article is for you. You’re living in limbo right now, waiting for what’s next. It’s not that great, is it?  There are a lot of excuses: Divorce will cost so much. Everything is relatively smooth right now, and I don’t want us to start fighting. What will it do to the kids? The divorce process will take forever! Will I

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