I think it’s safe to say that no one arrives in a blended family as their first choice. A marriage didn’t go according to plan and the redirect happened. For me, my first marriage ended quite abruptly (from my side, at least). And while there were layers of pain and grief that went into the decision to divorce, I know now it was the right one for us. It was far from what I wanted in the beginning, but years…
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How to Get Divorced in California in 3 Easy Steps Divorce in California is complicated. There are tons of forms to complete, specific timelines to meet, and court filings to navigate—all while the emotional weight of dismantling a marriage runs in the background. It’s a lot to think about. But don’t worry, at Hello Divorce we’ve broken it down into three easy-to-follow steps. And while the process does involve a good amount of work, we’ve gathered all the information you…
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(Hint: It’s not because your ex is a jerk.) We don’t get married thinking we’ll get divorced. (At least I hope not.) But it happens. A lot. And that’s OK. Not every relationship lasts 50 years. But who would ever expect that their divorce would cost more than their lavish wedding? More than the caterer, venue, table centerpieces, and dress? But it does, most of the time. Bottom line: Divorce is expensive. A recent article from USA Today reports that the average…
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When my ex-wife, Nikki, and I began the divorce process, I really didn’t know what to do or where to start. All I knew was that I was angry, resentful, and full of fear and that I had lived through the awful divorce of my parents. So, if you add up the negative feelings I was processing and my past experience of divorce, the only solution I came up with was to make Nikki the villain and try to destroy…
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If you’ve been separated from your ex, but haven’t yet filed for divorce: this article is for you. You’re living in limbo right now, waiting for what’s next – and it’s not that great, is it? I know there are a lot of excuses: Divorce will cost so much. Everything is relatively smooth going right now, I don’t want us to start fighting. What will it do to the kids? The divorce process will take forever, won’t it? Will I…
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Are you divorcing a narcissist and afraid you’re not going to win? I hate to say it but….you should be. Why? Because dirty tricks, scamming, lying, pressuring, and even stalking and manipulating are not beneath them. But, there are ways to actually beat them at their own game. So before we dive into what to do about that narcissist in a divorce, let me just give you a few highlights of the kinds of tricks and manipulations that they try…
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Changing your marital status is a complex endeavor. Whether you are getting married, going through a divorce, or re-marrying, the last thing you want to worry about is your marital status being held against you at work. It’s important to understand your rights and to know when your employer may be violating them. The following guide explains what marital status discrimination is, what it looks like, and where it is unlawful. What is marital status discrimination? As its name suggests,…
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We all get married for different reasons. For me, it was a rite of passage. I grew up knowing that one day I’d marry a man, live in a house with a white picket fence, a dog, a cat and 2.5 children. I worked hard to fit into that mold. And, I did. I married a man, we had a son together, and we stayed married for 13 years. I put on a good show and a happy face and…
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Legally speaking: just how “real” is Marriage Story, anyway? This week, the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences named Netflix film Marriage Story Best Picture nominee. But, as you’ll gather from the press, the clips and everything surrounding the movie: Marriage Story is actually not about marriage—unless you think divorce an inevitable part of marriage (ahem…it’s not). Marriage Story is not just anyone’s story. It’s the story of the film’s director, Noah Baumbach. And it’s not just any divorce story—it’s…
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The Hello Divorce Podcast: good advice, on demand. When you’re lacing up your shoes for your next run, walk, or a trip to the mailbox, make sure to grab your earbuds – because I’ve started a brand-new podcast! Why? Well, I’m already in your inbox with tips and advice weekly (sign up here!), I’m in your social media feed on Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter and Facebook, and you can take advantage of a free 15-minute call with me or a member…
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