This article is not “How to Avoid Getting a Divorce.” I’m not a relationship expert and I’d never be so bold as to say I know how to save a marriage. Rather, this post is for you if divorce is in the cards and you want to do everything possible to keep the cost and conflict in check. In other words, you don’t want to pay (on average) $27,000 to hire a divorce lawyer or air all of your dirty…
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A couple of weeks ago I came across an article about two best friends living in NYC who were struggling to find affordable housing—and realized the best option was to move in together with their kids to save money. How awesome is that? Turns out, one of these trailblazers is Ashley Simpo, the author of one of my favorite book recommendations, “A Kids Book About Divorce.” I got curious and I pseudo stalked her online. What I found was that…
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Let me start off by saying, “Thank God for lawyers.” People in the legal profession do amazingly complex work and often make it look easy. Am I the only one who’s super grateful for them? Now that you know I don’t hate lawyers, let me tell you why you should consider hiring a divorce mediator who is not an attorney. The family law structure in this country is super complex. It’s managed to make a tragic situation — the death…
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I think it’s safe to say that no one arrives in a blended family as their first choice. A marriage didn’t go according to plan and the redirect happened. For me, my first marriage ended quite abruptly (from my side, at least). And while there were layers of pain and grief that went into the decision to divorce, I know now it was the right one for us. It was far from what I wanted in the beginning, but years…
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How to Get Divorced in California in 3 Easy Steps Divorce in California is complicated. There are tons of forms to complete, specific timelines to meet, and court filings to navigate—all while the emotional weight of dismantling a marriage runs in the background. It’s a lot to think about. But don’t worry, at Hello Divorce we’ve broken it down into three easy-to-follow steps. And while the process does involve a good amount of work, we’ve gathered all the information you…
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(Hint: It’s not because your ex is a jerk.) We don’t get married thinking we’ll get divorced. (At least I hope not.) But it happens. A lot. And that’s OK. Not every relationship lasts 50 years. But who would ever expect that their divorce would cost more than their lavish wedding? More than the caterer, venue, table centerpieces, and dress? But it does, most of the time. Bottom line: Divorce is expensive. A recent article from USA Today reports that the average…
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When my ex-wife, Nikki, and I began the divorce process, I really didn’t know what to do or where to start. All I knew was that I was angry, resentful, and full of fear and that I had lived through the awful divorce of my parents. So, if you add up the negative feelings I was processing and my past experience of divorce, the only solution I came up with was to make Nikki the villain and try to destroy…
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Have you been delaying your divorce or been separated from your ex, but haven’t yet filed for divorce: this article is for you. You’re living in limbo right now, waiting for what’s next – and it’s not that great, is it? I know there are a lot of excuses: Divorce will cost so much. Everything is relatively smooth going right now, I don’t want us to start fighting. What will it do to the kids? The divorce process will take…
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Are you divorcing a narcissist and afraid you’re not going to win? I hate to say it but….you should be. Why? Because dirty tricks, scamming, lying, pressuring, and even stalking and manipulating are not beneath them. But, there are ways to actually beat them at their own game. So before we dive into what to do about that narcissist in a divorce, let me just give you a few highlights of the kinds of tricks and manipulations that they try…
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Changing your marital status is a complex endeavor. Whether you are getting married, going through a divorce, or re-marrying, the last thing you want to worry about is your marital status being held against you at work. It’s important to understand your rights and to know when your employer may be violating them. The following guide explains what marital status discrimination is, what it looks like, and where it is unlawful. What is marital status discrimination? As its name suggests,…
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