attachment style

Avoidant, Anxious, Disorganized or Secure? How Attachment Style Affects Relationships

Is your ex emotionally closed off, or too darn clingy? Or did they not seem to understand your love language and what you needed from them? Attachment styles might be to blame.  The American Psychological Society defines attachment style as ”the characteristic way people relate to others in the context of intimate relationships, which is heavily influenced by self-worth and interpersonal trust.” According to theories on attachment, adults form their innate attachment style in childhood, depending on how they bond

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dating before divorce is final

The truth about dating before your divorce is final

So, you’re broken up. One of you probably moved out, or you’re rarely in the same space if you’re still living together. The divorce proceedings are underway. You’re essentially already over, and living separate lives. So, you can start dating, right?  Technically, yes, you can date other people. But there are a few scenarios to be aware of before you get romantic with someone other than your soon-to-be-ex-spouse. Let’s look at each one so you can determine if it might

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lessons from divorce judge lynn

18 Lessons We Learned from Divorce Court’s Judge Lynn

Recently, Hello Divorce founder and CEO Erin Levine sat down with Judge Lynn Toler of Divorce Court fame. Since she stepped down from the Divorce Court bench, Judge Lynn has endeared herself to her half-million+ social media followers with her wit, charisma, and practical relationship advice. Judge Lynn and Erin’s conversation ranged from whether “having your day in court” is important to how to get over a cheater—and many topics in between. Here, we break down some of Judge Lynn’s

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marriages end in divorce

Your Marriage Will Probably End in Divorce, and That’s Totally Fine

Most marriages should end in divorce. We should plan accordingly. It’ll make our lives so much better. Even when standing at the altar, assume marriage isn’t for eternity. Instead, assume someday you might want out. And not just you. That person standing beside you might want out, too. In that world, we’ll have happier marriages with honest communication and expectations. We’ll have happier divorces, as well. No failure. No gloom. Just a normal, expected outcome. Half of all marriages end

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Spouse is Gay

Guest Blog by Scary Mommy Founder Jill Smokler: So, Your Spouse is Gay.

It’s been a while. A year and a half, actually, since I announced the end of my marriage. Related: Q&A with Jill Smokler, Founder of Scary Mommy, on Life After Divorce When the news came out that my husband was gay, I was bombarded with messages from people in similar situations around the world. The letters of support were easy to respond to and so very much appreciated. The other letters, however—the ones seeking my advice—were an entirely different story. Barely

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surviving infidelity

Marriage + Infidelity = Divorce? Not So Fast.

Here’s an interesting statistic: Between 60% and 75% of couples who experience a betrayal stay together. This information comes from an article about infidelity in Divorce Magazine by Steven D. Solomon, Ph.D. and Lorie J. Teagno, Ph.D., clinical psychologists who recently released a book, Intimacy after Infidelity: How to Rebuild & Affair-Proof Your Marriage. Divorce is a complex process that usually results from a very difficult decision. It often occurs when all other channels toward saving a marriage have been

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Divorce news

Breaking the “D” News to Friends and Family: Helping Them Help You

Your divorce may very well be one of the most difficult emotional journeys of your life. And while you know you’ll come out just fine on the other side, getting to that finish line can take a toll. Remember: You don’t have to do this alone. You are surrounded by people in your life who care and want to be there for you. As you share your news with those closest to you, you’re likely going to hear the words,

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