I think it’s safe to say that no one arrives in a blended family as their first choice. A marriage didn’t go according to plan and the redirect happened. For me, my first marriage ended quite abruptly (from my side, at least). And while there were layers of pain and grief that went into the decision to divorce, I know now it was the right one for us. It was far from what I wanted in the beginning, but years…
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Most marriages should end in divorce. We should plan accordingly. It’ll make our lives so much better. Even when standing at the altar, assume marriage isn’t for eternity. Instead, assume someday you might want out. And not just you. That person standing there with you, too. In that world, we’ll have happier marriages. With more honest communication and expectations. And happier divorces, as well. No failure. No gloom. Just a normal, expected outcome. In our modern world, half of marriages…
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It’s been a while. A year and a half, actually, since I announced the end of my marriage. Related: Q&A with Jill Smokler, Founder of ‘Scary Mommy,’ on Life After Divorce When the news came out, I was bombarded with messages from fellow gay spouses all around the world. The letters of support were easy to respond to, and so very much appreciated. The other letters, however – the ones seeking my advice – were an entirely different story. Barely functioning…
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Last fall, I read an article about infidelity in Divorce Magazine by Steven D. Solomon, Ph.D. and Lorie J. Teagno, Ph.D., clinical psychologists who had just released a book, Intimacy after Infidelity: How to Rebuild & Affair-Proof Your Marriage. They shared an interesting statistic: that 60 to 75 percent of couples who experienced a betrayal stayed together. As a divorce attorney, I work hard to help my clients navigate through a complex process that is usually the result of a…
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Depending on your divorce, it is possible that you have embarked on one of the most difficult emotional journeys of your life. While you know that you’ll come out just fine on the other side, getting to that finish line can take a toll. Remember: you don’t have to do this alone. You are surrounded by people in your life who care and want to be there for you. As you share your news with those closest to you, you’re…
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