Your Marriage Will Probably End in Divorce, and That’s Totally Fine

Most marriages should end in divorce. We should plan accordingly. It’ll make our lives so much better. Even when standing at the altar, assume marriage isn’t for eternity. Instead, assume someday you might want out. And not just you. That person standing there with you, too. In that world, we’ll have happier marriages. With more honest communication and expectations. And happier divorces, as well. No failure. No gloom. Just a normal, expected outcome. In our modern world, half of marriages…

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Guest Blog by ‘Scary Mommy’ Founder Jill Smokler: So, Your Spouse is Gay.

It’s been a while. A year and a half, actually, since I announced the end of my marriage. Related: Q&A with Jill Smokler, Founder of ‘Scary Mommy,’ on Life After Divorce When the news came out, I was bombarded with messages from fellow gay spouses all around the world. The letters of support were easy to respond to, and so very much appreciated. The other letters, however – the ones seeking my advice – were an entirely different story. Barely functioning…

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Marriage + Infidelity = Divorce? Not so fast.

Last fall, I read an article about infidelity in Divorce Magazine by Steven D. Solomon, Ph.D. and Lorie J. Teagno, Ph.D., clinical psychologists who had just released a book, Intimacy after Infidelity: How to Rebuild & Affair-Proof Your Marriage. They shared an interesting statistic: that 60 to 75 percent of couples who experienced a betrayal stayed together. As a divorce attorney, I work hard to help my clients navigate through a complex process that is usually the result of a…

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Breaking the ‘D’ News to Friends and Family: Helping Them Help You

Depending on your divorce, it is possible that you have embarked on one of the most difficult emotional journeys of your life. While you know that you’ll come out just fine on the other side, getting to that finish line can take a toll. Remember: you don’t have to do this alone. You are surrounded by people in your life who care and want to be there for you. As you share your news with those closest to you, you’re…

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