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Setting Divorce Ground Rules to Stay Focused and Productive

The secret to beginning your divorce on the right foot? You need to set clear, reasonable ground rules. These rules will (if followed) help maintain amicable relationships, direct communication, set expectations, and create a “playbook” of sorts to follow throughout your divorce. If you and your spouse aren’t seeing eye to eye, you’ll need to do your best with creating your ground rules, sharing them with your spouse, and sticking to them. You cannot control everything your spouse does, and

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Who Can Help With My Divorce?

Divorce is a life-changing process that requires significant time, thought, and planning. DIY divorce helps you divorce your way, but you should not try to go through it entirely on your own. Spending a little time and money on help when you really need it is worthwhile. Fortunately, there is a lot of help available—and much of it is affordable. Here, we list out all the main “helpers” involved in a divorce. From making smart decisions to dealing with ongoing

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Divorce Healing: Embracing Guilt, Letting Go of Shame

You tried your best to make your marriage work, but it did not. Maybe your spouse left you, or perhaps you were the one who filed for divorce. Now, you may be trying to resolve conflicts and forgive your ex. That’s hard work. But what about forgiving yourself? When a relationship ends, it’s never 100% one person’s fault. And sometimes, there’s no one to blame. Still, a common emotion after divorce is a sense of guilt … maybe even a

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Best Books to Help You Throughout Your Divorce

Divorce is all about difficult decisions, transitions, and negotiations. You could use all the help you can get, right? While browsing the web and getting advice from friends, your therapist or other trusted people are super helpful, sometimes it’s easier to just sit down and read one complete book on the topic you’re dealing with. All you need to do to find books on moving on after divorce is a simple Google search… but then you’re going to be faced

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5 Ways to Ease the Transition into Co-Parenting

So, you’ve taken a step forward toward divorce. We know this is a challenging time. But it’s also a very hopeful one—you can see a better future ahead for both you and your children. You and your ex now have the opportunity to create a more positive, productive home life for your children. As stressful as divorce can be, it’s also like a reset button. After the dust settles, you have a renewed sense of dignity and better-focused parenting goals. 

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Spring Lessons About Hope and Growth After Divorce

This winter has been cold, long, and hard. But look out the window, and you’ll notice spring on its way. Mother Nature is transitioning her outdoor world, and soon, we’ll bask in the delights of spring once again. The changing of the seasons makes for a simple but powerful analogy to the changes you go through in a divorce. The beginning of divorce feels cold, long, and hard. But time passes. Things improve. Here are some seasonally-inspired metaphors to guide

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12 Divorce Hacks: Our Best Tips for Surviving and Thriving Through Divorce

Watch our free Divorce Hacks webinar for more in-depth information here. It’s not hard to point out all the flaws in the legal system when it comes to divorce. What is hard is knowing how to not only survive—but thrive—in the divorce process. One of the main reasons for this is the lack of transparency for how it all works. Traditional divorce operates with lawyers hiding behind a fortress of information, obscure legal terms and vague timelines. When you don’t

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6 Small Ways to Kick Off Your New Beginning (Even if Your Divorce Feels Stuck)

Has the past year (or 10) been incredibly difficult? If you’re going through a divorce or even just thinking about ending your marriage, you’re understandably overwhelmed. You probably have lots of big changes you want to make or have a super long list of things you need to do. The truth is, it’s unlikely you can make substantial progress in a short period of time. Why pressure yourself to move mountains right away?  Steady progress results from small steps toward

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5 Ways to Make 2022 Your Happiest Year Ever

Where has the year gone?! You’ve been through a lot this year, and that’s not even including the pandemic, politics, and all the craziness happening all over the world. You’re making big changes and starting to get clarity on what you need more and less of in your life. The New Year is a really inspiring, hopeful time of year — a new landscape is ahead of you, fresh and full of potential.  You’ve already taken a giant step toward

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How to Respond to Insensitive Questions & Comments About Your Divorce

Divorce is tough for everyone involved, including the people in your life who care about you or are just plain curious. You’ll inevitably face some — let’s be honest — rude questions and comments during and after your divorce. So, how should you respond while both satisfying them and keeping your grace and sanity intact? First, let’s go through the possibilities. Some of the nosy, insensitive, or otherwise unwelcome questions and comments you’re likely to hear include: “Don’t you love

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