Lessons after divorce

7 Life Changing Lessons We Learn Only After Divorce

No one gets married thinking they will get divorced. At least I hope not. But it happens, and that’s ok. And it’s never fun. In fact, even if you’ve come to grips that divorce is the best option for you and/or your spouse, it’s still heart-breaking. But here’s the thing, most people come out of it so much happier. Sounds hard to believe right? But after 15 years of working with divorcing couples, I know this to be true. Divorce…

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communication breakdown keeping your divorce amicable

Communication Breakdown? Our ‘Go-To’ Mediation Expert Shares the Secret to Keeping Your Divorce Amicable (Your Kids Will Thank You!)

In my work as a mediator, I’ve yet to hear a client tell me they want their kids involved in their divorce. However, when divorcing parents avoid talking about what needs talking about, the outstanding issues lead to future conversations that are more challenging than they need to be, more complicated than they need to be, and more likely to affect the kids. “I don’t want to stir the pot. I’d prefer to keep things calm,” a client recently told…

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lessons from divorce judge lynn

18 Lessons We Learned from Divorce Court’s Judge Lynn

Recently, Hello Divorce founder and CEO, Erin Levine, sat down with Judge Lynn Toler of Divorce Court fame. Since she stepped down from the Divorce Court bench, Judge Lynn has endeared herself to her over half a million social media followers with her wit, charisma, and practical relationship advice. Judge Lynn and Erin’s conversation ranged from whether or not “having your day in court” is important to get over a cheater (and everywhere in between). Here we breakdown some of…

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New Years Intentions

A Single Gals Guide to Setting New Year’s Intentions in 2021

While coronavirus is ranging on with no near end in sight, most of us are feeling a bit overwhelmed (at best) and unhinged. With emotions as heightened as they are, and social distancing back in the picture, it’s no wonder divorce rates are up. Spending loads of time with your spouse is hard on any marriage — but when you’ve already had a conflict and the core issues remain unresolved, divorce can be a positive decision for lots of people.…

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self-care gifts

12 Self-Care Gifts So Good, You’ll Want to Keep Them for Yourself This Holiday Season

This is supposed to be a season of happiness and joy. More often than not, however, and particularly this year, the stress and overwhelm that come along with the holidays are amplified.  With the focus on others during the holidays, it’s easy to forget to care for yourself, some might even feel guilty at the thought of prioritizing themselves –  DO NOT do yourself wrong.  Self-care is essential for your growth, it strengthens your foundation, improving your ability to be…

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Relationship Trauma From Victim to Victor

Break Up, Break Through, Break Free: How to Transition from Victim to Victor after Relationship Trauma

When we made the decision earlier this year to expand our online divorce software and services into Utah, we knew we couldn’t do it alone. While it’s in our wheelhouse to automate the legal process and make it accessible to everyone,  ‘the law’ is just one piece of a much bigger puzzle. To truly support our community of self-represented folks navigating divorce – we would need a village. We first reached out to locals Tiffany Denny and Kierstyn Franklin, Founders…

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Ashley Simpo Interview Hello Divorce

Q&A: Ashley Simpo on Co-mothering, Journaling and Goal Setting

A couple of weeks ago I came across an article about two best friends living in NYC who were struggling to find affordable housing—and realized the best option was to move in together with their kids to save money. How awesome is that? Turns out, one of these trailblazers is Ashley Simpo, the author of one of my favorite book recommendations, “A Kids Book About Divorce.” I got curious and I pseudo stalked her online. What I found was that…

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How I Moved on after Divorcing in My Early 30’s

I was the person who left my marriage and did not feel heartbreak. I was so heartbroken throughout the final year of the marriage that the end felt needed. It felt necessary. It felt like it was the only way I could be myself again – and breathe again.  All of those feelings felt true for the following year. Time and time again, I found myself disappointed by my ex-husband. And while I felt overwhelmed and tired all of the…

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California Divorce: Meditations to Help You Stay Positive

Whether you’re outside or inside California, divorce meditations like these can help you stay focused on what matters. I’ve been a practicing divorce lawyer for 15 years. I’ve helped couples dissolve marriages that neither party wanted to continue. I’ve helped individuals going through divorce who were blindsided and never saw it coming, and I’ve helped people find the right words to tell their partner they want to separate. I’ve seen and learned a lot, and I have channeled all of…

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I Didn’t See it Coming. But I’ve Moved On, and You Can, Too.

I didn’t see it coming. I thought we were a happy couple. We were together over 20 years; we were best friends, we shared everything. We laughed, we made plans for the future. And then I was blindsided. There were (and still are) so many unanswered questions. What did I do wrong? When did he stop loving me? Is there someone else?  Time stood still. The days felt endless and the nights were worse. Going to bed alone, I never…

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