Sometimes the hurdles we face can feel overwhelming and paralyzing. Balancing home and work with parenthood is hard enough. Add in a struggling relationship or a difficult separation and we are stretched thin.
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Maintaining your mental health is just as important, if not more important, than your physical health when you’re going through a tough divorce. Don’t get us wrong, we want you healthy and happy on the...
On average, 4,800 Americans get divorced per day. You are certainly not alone. Yet at times, it feels like you are the only person getting a divorce. Parting ways after years of living together is...
Asking “What if I never meet The One?” is a potentially scary, vulnerable, and often triggering question to contemplate. Imagining ourselves without The One – a romantic partner, a great love, a lifetime spouse –...
Sometimes, the hurdles we face can feel overwhelming and paralyzing. Balancing home and work with parenthood is hard enough. Add in a struggling relationship or a difficult separation, and we are stretched thin. We decided...
There may be some days, weeks, months, maybe even years when—for whatever reason—just getting through the day, or going to work, or putting one foot in front of the other feels hard. Really, really hard....
As a general rule, you should think of the courtroom as a formal environment. Dress as you would when going for an important job interview or to church. You can be barred from the courtroom...
Many people change their names when they get married, but when they get divorced, some individuals wish to have their former name restored. If you would like to keep your name the same, then there...
Even ‘happily’ married couples have difficulty effectively supporting their children. In some cases, especially when the parents have a child or children with a disability, the parents need to be even more united and consistent...
Oftentimes in life we find ourselves in what appears to be a difficult and painful situation. Divorce is a great example. Divorce. Life is not going the way we dreamed about or expected. When this...
If you are thinking of divorce, you may have what I call a “training partner.” I learned this from my years of studying Aikido and martial arts. In the dojo, you can’t get better unless...
You’ve separated from your child’s other parent. Life is tough, and litigation is messy. You are looking for good resources anywhere you can find them. • Do try a support group. • Do consult a...
Many people have cats or dogs in their lives, and others may call birds, fish, rabbits, and turtles their companions. But today I actually want to talk to you about porcupines. That’s right, porcupines. Specifically,...
Have you ever been in conversation with your loved ones and just found it impossible to really, truly, communicate? Like, no matter how carefully you tried to explain your point of view the whole conversation...
What’s an emotional first aid kit? It’s a set of practices, behaviours, and creative interventions I’ve cultivated over the years that helps me support my body, mind, heart, and soul when times are particularly tough...
Much has been written about the seemingly impossible standards and relentlessly full plates most of us have across all areas of our lives — and I probably don’t need to tell you how much stress,...
One of the most common things I hear in my therapy practice goes something along the lines of this: “I feel stuck. I just don’t know what to do or how to make choices about...
Anxiety is a normal and natural human emotion that everyone experiences at times. And, like with most things in life, anxiety exists on a spectrum — from butterflies in your stomach before speaking up in...
Despite our own mistakes, and the many we have seen, we are still believers in love and commitment. For every client we’ve helped through a messy breakup, we’ve had the privilege of hearing their story....
A Pep Talk from Me to You… I know you’re having a hard time right now. You’re not feeling so great, mentally, physically, overall… You’re wishing this time would pass, that things would be back...
Many people take their spouse’s last name when they get married. But when they get divorced, some people want their previous name back. In Colorado, this process is called name change restoration. If you do...
Divorce isn’t easy. The emotional toll that your breakup takes can sometimes trigger mental and physical health issues during your divorce journey. We get it. But what if you could proactively increase wellness by just...
If you are served with an Original Petition for Divorce in Texas, you are considered the Respondent spouse. The Petition is the document your spouse has filed with the court to initiate divorce proceedings. The...
Spousal maintenance, also called spousal support or alimony, is either something agreed upon by both parties or is ordered by the court, depending on the circumstances of the marriage and consideration of various factors. It...
Many people take their spouse’s last name when they get married, but when they get divorced, some people want their previous names back. In Utah, this process is called Name Change. If you do not...
If you or your spouse are active or past members of the military, getting a divorce can be more complicated. Below, you’ll find information to help you through the specifics of your process. How do...
Set yourself up for success post-divorce with our new worksheet. We'll help you identify a goal and think through all the steps required to make it a reality. Your next chapter is waiting for you—our...
Interviewing a few therapists and/or divorce coaches in advance is an excellent investment of your time and a terrific way to determine fit – which can be the most important factor in a therapy/coaching relationship....
One Friday afternoon when I was 34, I was having some follow-up testing done after a “funny” breast MRI, and ended up with a breast cancer diagnosis. My six year-old daughter was on her way...
You’ll find yourself doing a lot of things you never expected to do on your own as a newly divorced dad. I did. Along the way, there were a few things I learned that I...
I was married and divorced by the time I turned 30. Not long after that, I entered what I like to call a “charitable rebound” that lasted about two years. After we “officially” moved in...
When you’re the founder of a post-breakup concierge service, you get to know a lot of interesting people offering interesting services that help people move past heartbreak. Here are a few services that we connect...
For some of us divorced dads, the approach of any holiday, from Mother’s Day to Valentine’s Day, is enough to bring on the cold sweats. Relax. Survival, even redemption, is attainable — and it’s not...
Every month, I offer a workshop to women in my community who are either contemplating divorce or in the early stages of divorce. On the second Saturday of each month, we invite a therapist and...
Depending on your divorce, it is possible that you have embarked on one of the most difficult emotional journeys of your life. While you know that you’ll come out just fine on the other side,...
It’s over. Officially. But, now what? As a divorce lawyer for the last 15 years, I can tell you that, as crazy as it sounds, one of the most difficult parts of divorce is often...
One of my favorite quotes about self-care comes from my friend and colleague Annie Wright, a licensed marriage and family therapist who runs Annie Wright Psychotherapy, based in Berkeley. “Self-care doesn’t always look like sleep,...
Whether you're introducing a new partner, meeting a new partner, or are the new partner, our worksheet will help you prepare for this meeting. Take the thoughtful steps outlined in our worksheet to ease the...
Even 15 years in, there are so many times that my clients taught me valuable lessons that I have taken to heart. And I want to share a few of those with you. These are...
Download our “Positive Affirmations” Tear-Sheet & take what you need – when you need it. So life is a bit challenging these days. We get it. & while it’s tough now, it’s good to...
Thinking about dating after being married for years can be intimidating, exciting, and frankly, straight-up terrifying. When my marriage ended I was (I thought) eager to start dating and I set up a dating profile...
What is a divorce support group? What happens at a divorce support group meeting? How to find a divorce support group? Benefits and limitations of divorce support groups Other types of support What are the...
Questions to consider before having sex after divorce When you find someone you’re ready to have sex with Sexual safety after divorce Sexual communication Performance anxiety New Relationship Energy Sex after divorce… with your ex?...
It’s never too late to try something new Don’t get trapped in a scarcity mindset The rise of online dating Getting started with dating apps Meeting people the old-fashioned way What are you looking for?...
Don’t view divorce as a failure Keep working on yourself Make an effort to avoid the same patterns Avoid getting too serious, too fast Expand your idea of what a relationship can be Rebuild non-romantic...
What is divorce therapy? What is discussed in divorce therapy? Why would a divorcing person need divorce therapy? Types of divorce therapy Finding a divorce therapist Other resources Divorce is so much more than a...
“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” – Antoine de Sainte-Exupery When it’s all over, it’s going to hit you like a ton of bricks: Your divorce has been finalized. The process sapped...
Divorce is a complete lifestyle transformation. It’s hard enough on its own, but if you’re also on the path toward sobriety you’re conquering two major life changes at once. On good days (or hours) you...