“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” – Antoine de Sainte-Exupery
When it’s all over, it’s going to hit you like a ton of bricks: Your divorce has been finalized. The process sapped so much energy and surfaced so many emotions. But finally, it’s done.
My sincere hope is that you never have to ask yourself that question.
The most centered, happy, and confident people I’ve worked with shared one thing in common: They planned ahead to set themselves up for success post-divorce.
And, it’s not as difficult as you might think.
Visualizing what your life will look like after divorce helps you focus on the bigger picture. The stronger your vision of life post-divorce, the easier it will be to turn the page and start your next chapter.
Setting a goal or two can strengthen that vision. We think you can crush your goals with the help of these three tools.
Create a vision board
Grab a stack of old magazines, some scissors, and glue, and get your creativity flowing! Maybe you want to redesign the house after the divorce is final. Create a board full of images of bedding, artwork, and furniture that you love so you can “see” what you’ll design.
Maybe you want to take a trip or explore new hobbies. Clip pictures of the places you want to visit or the activities you want to pursue when your divorce finalizes.
Seeing is believing. By reminding yourself visually of the possibilities ahead, you keep your eyes on the prize.
Meet with a life coach
You might have dozens of goals and plans for life post-divorce, but sometimes, it’s hard to know where to start.
A life coach can be a terrific resource. Their job is to help you focus on the future, to distill goals you truly want to achieve, and to help you create a roadmap to get there.
I recommend reading a guest post, How a Life Coach Can Help You Thrive After Divorce, to learn what to expect and how to start working with a life coach.
Download our worksheet
Our worksheet Goal Setting for Life Post-Divorce helps you think through areas where you could set goals. It then helps you break down steps to achieving those goals by pinpointing your “why”—your reason for wanting the goals in the first place. The worksheet can help you identify a support network and small steps you can take to make meeting your goals manageable.
Whether you’re at the beginning of the divorce process or working through it, remember that focusing on the future is a fantastic way to remind yourself that this period in your life is temporary.
You will get past this. Your next chapter will be amazing. There’s absolutely no reason why you can’t start working toward that chapter right now.