The ENFP personality is extroverted, intuitive, feeling, and perceiving.
ENFPs tend to be outgoing, warm, and deeply thoughtful with active social lives and rich inner lives. ENFPs care about their relationships with others and enthusiastically support issues and ideas that affect not just their peer circle but the world itself. Although they can be a bit scattered and disorganized at times, others are intrigued by their warmth, vibrance, and good-natured personalities.
Tips for handling divorce as an ENFP
Get comfortable with direct conversations
Because ENFPs care so deeply about the feelings of others, they tend to dislike direct or abrasive conversations … and sometimes, they avoid direct conversations altogether.
In divorce, you don’t have time to beat around the bush, especially if you’re paying a lawyer or mediator by the hour. Think about what you want to say, take a deep breath, and say it. You can preface the conversation by stating what is to come: “I’d like to talk to you about something, and it’s a subject I know neither of us is completely comfortable with …” If it helps, practice in front of a mirror or with a trusted friend or therapist first.
Seek help with organization
To move past your divorce, lots of little pieces must fall into place. For an ENFP who struggles with organization and structure, this adds a layer (or two or three) of stress.
You may feel overwhelmed or even paralyzed by the prospect of so many upcoming meetings, paperwork deadlines, and other bits of business. Find an organizational system that works for you. For example, the highly structured Hello Divorce process is guided by step-by-step software, you get help from a dedicated account coordinator, and our website features many free checklists and worksheets to help you along the way.
Distract yourself from your anxiety
ENFPs are overthinkers who, under duress, can spiral into a perpetual anxiety loop. Maybe you’re struggling to understand why your spouse is the way they are. Maybe you’re trying to figure out where your marriage went wrong in the first place. To an extent, self-reflection is healthy—but it’s unhealthy to obsess about it.
What can you do to take your mind off things for a while? Maybe it’s painting. Maybe it’s biking. Maybe it’s calling a friend. Give your mind a vacation from those nagging questions and just let your hair down for a while.
Create a safe space to retreat
Although people-oriented ENFPs love interacting with others, the stress of everyday life can still get to them. It’s important for you to have a secure location where you can decompress, even if you don’t go there often. Depending on your living situation, this might be a quiet bedroom, a room in the basement, or a secluded office across town. Maybe it’s your car.
Get back to basics
Self-care is a theme we often explore at Hello Divorce because it’s so very important—especially when you’re in a stressful situation like divorce.
For the ENFP, even the most basic elements of self-care may need to be revisited. Are you getting enough sleep? Are you eating healthy meals? Consider investing in a wearable health-tracking device or downloading an app that reminds you to do the basics, such as a hydration app that reminds you to drink enough water each day.
Recommended reading for ENFPs
As a highly sensitive ENFP, you’ve got the skills and the depth to get through your divorce. But we don’t think you should have to do it alone, which is why we created Hello Divorce—to guide people through the end of their relationship and the start of a new life chapter. To learn more about our services, read about our membership plans here, or schedule your free 15-minute informational call.