You’ve separated from your child’s other parent. Life is tough and litigation is messy. You are looking for good resources any where you can find it.
- Do try a support group.
- Do consult an lawyer or a court facilitator.
- Do try mediation if your ex is a good candidate for it.
- Do think about co-parenting counseling.
- Do ask counsel about the possibility of a child custody evaluation.
- Do determine if minor’s counsel may be appropriate in your case.
- Do focus on the needs of your child instead of revenge on your ex.
Do read books that help you focus on your child’s needs during this seriously conflicted, scary and frustrating time.
Don’t turn to books like “Hit Him Where it Hurts” or “How to Outsmart Your Husband.” Judges can see through that behavior and family law is all about good faith.
What are some alternative reads?
Try Janet Johnston’s “Through the Eyes of Children” or “A Safe Place to Grow” for helping your child cope with a multitude of trauma, including violence, abuse and insecurity. Also check out these helpful reads:
- How to Avoid the Divorce From Hell: (and dance together at your daughters wedding)
- The Kickass Single Mom: Be Financially Independent, Discover Your Sexiest Self, and Raise Fabulous, Happy Children
- Divorce Is Not the End of the World: Zoe’s and Evan’s Coping Guide for Kids
- Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder
- The High-Conflict Custody Battle: Protect Yourself and Your Kids from a Toxic Divorce, False Accusations, and Parental Alienation
- Joint Custody with a Jerk: Raising a Child with an Uncooperative Ex- A Hands-on, Practical Guide to Communicating with a Difficult Ex-Spouse
- The Truth About Children and Divorce: Dealing with the Emotions So You and Your Children Can Thrive
- Divorce Poison: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing
- Childhood Disrupted: How Your Biography Becomes Your Biology, and How You Can Heal
