How to Keep Your Divorce Conversations Productive

First things first. If you want to negotiate an agreement with your spouse, you have to remember (and accept) the following principles: Be mindful that your purpose is to avoid arguing and to be as persuasive as possible. The communication issues you had during your marriage will not go away in separation. What does that mean? It means you need to manage your expectations and negotiation style or risk one or more of the following: constant arguing, bickering, flat out…

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Break Up, Break Through, Break Out: Our Promise to Help Users Claim the Highest Version of Themselves Amidst Struggle

I founded Hello Divorce as a result of my own adversity. When I think about it now, I am convinced that all that we have in life is the capacity to turn obstacles into opportunities—breakups into breakthroughs. My desire to become a lawyer was birthed out of a disempowering and lonely experience I had with the legal system as a late teen. I was both a witness in a criminal action case and a plaintiff in a civil case. As…

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It’s Over: The Checklist You Need for Your New Beginning

This blog originally appeared on It’s over. Officially. But, now what? As a divorce lawyer for the last 12+ years, I can tell you that – as crazy as it sounds – sometimes one of the most difficult parts of divorce is the end. After enduring so many months of negotiation, paperwork, deadlines, heartache and perhaps even frustration or anger; when the divorce judgment is finally granted, it can feel all at once like an incredible burden lifted –…

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Resolution: Divorce. What To Do Now If You’ve Decided To Divorce In 2018

If you’re thinking about getting a divorce in 2018, you’re on the clock. Every divorce in California must start with a Petition and Response – meaning, you or your spouse must file official paperwork with the court stating your intent to divorce. (Learn more about the Petition and Response process here.) After the Petition is filed, it takes at least 6 months and one day – by law in California – to finalize your divorce. (Note: You won’t be automatically…

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California Divorce in Four Steps

Divorce in California is complicated. And it’s especially complicated if you’re not a divorce attorney. That’s why we work so hard at Hello Divorce to demystify the process. My latest webinar, California Divorce in Four Steps, walked through the divorce process, breaking it down into four manageable steps, so you know exactly what to expect, every part of the way. During the webinar, I talk about how to file for divorce, how to handle the complex financial disclosure process, walk…

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You Got This: A Spotify Playlist

Sometimes, the right playlist is everything. If you’ve decided that 2018 is the year you are going to pursue divorce and start the next chapter of your life, we’ve put together a Spotify playlist to lift your spirits and keep you feeling positive, motivated and ready to go the distance.

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I’m a Divorce Lawyer, and This is the #1 Thing I Tell My Clients to Do

(This post originally appeared on As a seasoned divorce lawyer, I see far too many of my clients putting off the one thing they absolutely need to be doing throughout this emotionally complex process: making time for self-care. You are being pulled in so many different directions and are experiencing a sea of transitions – it is so easy to get swept up in the stress of it all that physical and mental health take a back seat. But…

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New Year, New Start: A Farewell to 2017

Whether you decided to start the divorce process this year, or completed it, chances are, you may be ready to bid 2017 adieu. With New Year’s Eve just around the corner, the countdown is on! But don’t spend your time scouring the internet for ideas. I already did that for you.   Here are a few clever ways you can start 2018 off on the right foot, by saying goodbye (and maybe even good riddance?) to the past 12 months:…

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The Good Friend’s Guide to Divorce

So many members of the Hello Divorce community tell me they have joined because they know someone going through a divorce. They wanted to find a way to be supportive, and felt that our tip sheets, resources and videos would be a good way to help them feel informed enough to support their loved one through this difficult process. While you’ll find resources on every aspect of divorce, from our pre-leaving checklist to how to prepare for a meeting with…

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Is Your Style of Communication Getting in the Way of Your Relationships?

Have you ever been in conversation with your loved ones and just found it impossible to really, truly, communicate? Like no matter how carefully you tried to explain your point of view the whole conversation seemed to go off the rails in a series of misses and you all ended up feeling not-so-good about the contact you just had? It might have something to do with one of the four communication styles you learned in childhood. Communication styles fall into four…

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