Want to Stay out of Divorce Court? You Need to Read This First

This article is not “How to Avoid Getting a Divorce.” I’m not a relationship expert and I’d never be so bold as to say I know how to save a marriage. Rather, this post is for you if divorce is in the cards and you want to do everything possible to keep the cost and conflict in check. In other words, you don’t want to pay  (on average) $27,000 to hire a divorce lawyer or air all of your dirty…

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Hello Divorce’s Top 10 Posts of All Time

When I founded Hello Divorce, my core values included launching a service that provided an affordable, low conflict, and ‘convenient’ option for separating couples. In order to do that, we had a real uphill battle. I’m not talking about the design, marketing, and/or coding — those things I knew we could tackle by leveraging my knowledge of the legal system with the brilliant development team and outside the box thinkers I had in my tribe. What was really crucial though…

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Ashley Simpo Interview Hello Divorce

Q&A: Ashley Simpo on Co-mothering, Journaling and Goal Setting

A couple of weeks ago I came across an article about two best friends living in NYC who were struggling to find affordable housing—and realized the best option was to move in together with their kids to save money. How awesome is that? Turns out, one of these trailblazers is Ashley Simpo, the author of one of my favorite book recommendations, “A Kids Book About Divorce.” I got curious and I pseudo stalked her online. What I found was that…

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Co-parenting During COVID-19

How to Co-parent During the Coronavirus Pandemic Without Losing Your Mind

But if you lose it here and there, we aren’t going to judge (we’ve all been there!) 5 months and counting. Ahhh, life during a pandemic. The coronavirus has really shaken up the way we live, work, travel, shop, socialize, and educate. Just when we thought we had started to adjust to this new “normal,” something else comes up — like the decision made by many school districts across the country to not open schools for in-person classes this fall. …

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moving on divorcing in early 30s

How I Moved on after Divorcing in My Early 30’s

I was the person who left my marriage and did not feel heartbreak. I was so heartbroken throughout the final year of the marriage that the end felt needed. It felt necessary. It felt like it was the only way I could be myself again – and breathe again.  All of those feelings felt true for the following year. Time and time again, I found myself disappointed by my ex-husband. And while I felt overwhelmed and tired all of the…

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Talk to Your Kids About Divorce

How to Talk to Your Kids About Divorce

Although going through a divorce is going to be difficult for every member of your family, it is very common for your kids to take the news the hardest and to need the most time to come to grips with the reality of what is happening. While there is likely nothing that you can do to make things seem totally ‘okay’ or ‘normal’ during a divorce, there are strategies you can use when explaining the situation to your children to…

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Hiring a Non-Attorney Divorce Mediator

10 Benefits of Hiring a Non-Attorney Divorce Mediator

Let me start off by saying, “Thank God for lawyers.” People in the legal profession do amazingly complex work and often make it look easy. Am I the only one who’s super grateful for them? Now that you know I don’t hate lawyers, let me tell you why you should consider hiring a divorce mediator who is not an attorney. The family law structure in this country is super complex. It’s managed to make a tragic situation — the death…

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Impact of Divorce on Adult Children

Home Will Never Be the Same Again: The Impact of Divorce on Adult Children

When older people divorce, we often overlook the impact this decision has on the couple’s adult children. The disruption and pain that occurs because of this “gray divorce”—a reference to the hair color older people frequently have—is often minimized or dismissed. Adult children are treated as if they are only marginal players in an extremely significant disruption in their family life, even though they are major stakeholders in their parents’ divorce. The family they have known their entire lives is…

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Divorcing during Covid-19

When You’re Divorcing During Covid-19 (a Pep Talk)

Are you really waiting for life to return to normal? Or, are you ready to build something new? As we cross the four-month mark of COVID and all the tumult and unknown this is bringing to our lives, I can’t help but be reminded of what I discovered right after I had my daughter. What I recall from that time is that folks rarely tell you just how hard the sleep deprivation toll is – not in the first three…

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divorce emotional justice

You Won’t Get “Emotional Justice” in Divorce Court

Divorce by its very nature creates upheaval. It can bring about some of the strongest emotions a person has ever experienced: sadness, grief, anger, frustration, and despair—and sometimes even blame, shame, guilt, humiliation, rejection, hopelessness, or a desire for revenge. Even those divorcing amicably are bound to feel the emotional weight of ending a relationship with a person they once loved deeply (and maybe still do). All of these emotions influence how people handle the “business” part of a divorce.…

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You can still get a divorce, even with court closures. Here’s how.
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