What the Bleep is Divorce? (aka Answers to all the questions that feel too overwhelming to ask.)

First off, what is divorce? You’d think it would be obvious. After all, everyone knows someone who has been or is getting divorced. But it’s not. Divorce isn’t rocket science. But it’s confusing and a process. It’s essentially filing a lawsuit and as we all know, when a lawsuit is filed, you enter the legal system. & if you’ve ever dealt with a bureaucracy before (think: a frustrating encounter with the Department of Motor Vehicles), you know that there’s a…

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Your Marriage Will Probably End in Divorce, and That’s Totally Fine

Most marriages should end in divorce. We should plan accordingly. It’ll make our lives so much better. Even when standing at the altar, assume marriage isn’t for eternity. Instead, assume someday you might want out. And not just you. That person standing there with you, too. In that world, we’ll have happier marriages. With more honest communication and expectations. And happier divorces, as well. No failure. No gloom. Just a normal, expected outcome. In our modern world, half of marriages…

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When it’s Time to Move, Move Onward

I’m willing to bet that there isn’t anyone reading this post right now who hasn’t experienced heartbreak. Whether you’re going through it right now or cringing at the memory of a bad breakup in the past, you know how it feels. It sucks. Being sad might be the only feeling that feels good, beyond diving into a pint of Häagen Dazs or keeping your best friend on the phone for hours analyzing every second leading up to the breakup. Or,…

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When it comes to co-parenting, this tool keeps things Fayr

It’s not a misspelling. It’s actually a meaningful acronym: Family Advocacy is Your Responsibility, or Fayr, a new(ish) co-parenting app that has quickly become my favorite to recommend – and it will be yours soon, too, if you’re looking for a thoughtfully designed co-parenting tool. Michael Daniels created Fayr to manage his own co-parenting relationship. After he and his wife divorced, he found himself spending more time tracking paperwork, daily logs and receipts – that he was later accused of…

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Expert Tips for Negotiating Spousal Support

There are probably a million (or more) things you would rather be doing instead of negotiating a divorce deal with your ex. I get it. Especially when it comes to spousal support – such a hot button issue. So, I reached out to industry experts to get the best tips for how to discuss spousal support, to help you start the conversation on the most solid footing possible. Temporary vs Permanent Support “Some states have formulas which must be used…

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How and Why This Cynic of “DIY” Law Built a DIY Divorce Platform

NEW! Our Divorce Navigator is LIVE! Complete and print official versions of California’s 20+ mandatory forms through our new app. Get access via your DIY Divorce subscription, and save $50 off your first month with code DIVNAV50. (Read more here.) For 10 years I have owned and operated a boutique family law firm in the San Francisco Bay Area. Every month, without fail, we receive one or two requests from people who used a do-it-yourself (DIY) legal website and had some kind of…

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Q&A with Mighty + Bright Founder, Sara Olsher, on Talking to Kids about Divorce + Co-Parenting with Cancer

If you are going through divorce with kids, you’ve likely been looking for ways to talk to them about what’s going on. You may have read some of the great resources and articles here on Hello Divorce about co-parenting, like How to Succeed at Raising Your Kids Together, Apart or 5 Co-Parenting Plan Resources We Love. If you have, you’ll have seen several mentions of Mighty + Bright. I adore Mighty + Bright and refer many of my clients to…

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Party of One: 4 Steps to Plan the Ultimate Pity Party (and Why You Need to Have One ASAP)

We’ve ALL been there… Something happens that just throws off our day/week/month and suddenly everything feels unmanageable and we wonder how we’ve found ourselves feeling like this, yet again. This, my friends, means it might be time to throw yourself a pity party. I know: this might sound weird, but hear me out! For so long, the term “pity party” has been used as a way to mock someone who is being overly dramatic in overreacting to a bad situation.…

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Announcing Your Divorce: How To & What to Consider Before You Share

Divorce is hard. Even a fairly amicable one. One of the first (outwardly) difficult parts includes breaking the news to those you friends and/or family members you know and love. After you’ve told your kids (if you have them), who do you tell next? At what point during the divorce process should you tell people? And how exactly do you tell people about a life change you may not be ready to discuss in detail? No two divorces are alike,…

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26 Ways to Win at Co-Parenting This Year (and Beyond)

If you’re here, you probably have a divorce story (or you’re about to have one). Mine goes like this: my husband and I had a stable if contentious relationship. We were typical, ecstatic first-time parents, and the first year of my daughter’s life was my happiest. When she was 14 months old, my husband went on a work trip to Greece. My phone rang. His boss was on the line. My husband had fallen off a cliff, and it was…

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