Divorce and Other Things You Can Handle

“The best revenge is to have enough self-worth not to seek it.” It was the perfect quote to start the podcast. I recently had the pleasure of chatting with Audrey Zada on Divorce and Other Things You Can Handle. It’s an awesome new podcast from Worthy, a resource for selling your wedding ring when you’re ready to let go – and so much more. I’m a frequent contributor to their blog because I love, love that they’re more than a…

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No One Divorces The Same – How to Make the Best of Yours and Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

In the midst of a divorce, it is only natural to compare your own relationships to others. How we perceive others’ divorces can create a measuring stick for our own and during this time, it’s natural to feel insecure. After all, you’ve just made a major change to your life. But now is where the real work comes in– it’s when we begin creating a new life that fits where you are right now. In creating this new version of…

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Divorce in a Second Language: 5 Tips from a Bilingual Lawyer

Going through divorce is challenging enough, but when English is not your first language the legal jargon, paperwork and process can be even more intimidating – and put you at a real disadvantage. There are linguistic and cultural nuances sometimes lost in translation that can make the difference between winning and losing on an issue. And though many court forms have instructions in other languages, responses and any declarations that the court will read must be in English. So, in…

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5 Ways to Get Your Divorce “Unstuck”

OK, so you feel totally stuck. All you want is closure and yet your divorce is lingering on and on. You’ve tried everything. You’ve tried nothing. You don’t have any clue what to do next. You have a list so long you don’t know where to start. Relate to any of this? First things first, are you really stuck? To know me is to know that it drives me crazy that everywhere we look, divorce is seen as an event.…

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This is Why You Need a Strategy for Your Divorce

We view divorce as an event. As if one day you announce, “I’m getting a divorce,” and the next day your marriage is over. The truth is, it’s a journey. It’s a process. It’s a method by which you transition out of your marriage and re-prioritize your relationships, especially your relationship with yourself. Sometimes there is still love. Sometimes the love that once was has long been extinguished. As renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel says, “Ending a marriage goes beyond the…

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The Best Divorce Advice Ever Given or Received (From People Who’ve Been There)

Whether you’re at the beginning of the divorce process or in the thick of it, I can’t stress enough how helpful it can be to share your experience with others who are in or have gone through a divorce. Connecting with someone who’s been in your shoes can help put things in perspective, or at least make you feel a little less alone. If you don’t already have a friend who has gone through divorce, you can seek out a…

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9 Websites You Need to Bookmark if You’re Going Through Divorce Right Now

I am literally constantly on the lookout for new tips and guidance that can help my clients work through the divorce process in a more humane, inspired and empowered way. Websites, apps, resources, books, tools –  you name it. I’ve compiled a list of some of my favorite online resources, so you can bookmark them, too. All Around Resourceful I’ve Moved On – I love Thom’s positive but raw take on life after divorce: “moving on to life’s next great…

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5 Ways to Reclaim Your (Whole) Self After Divorce

“I went to war for what we had; you never even laced up your boots.” – N.R. Shepherd You spent years trying to turn your relationship into the type of partnership that you had hoped for – one where you (always) had each other’s backs, celebrated one another’s “whole” selves, enjoyed moments of playfulness and shared intimacy. You wholeheartedly invested your time, money, energy, and other resources to make it work. You were selfless. You were hopeful. You trusted the…

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Selling Your Home in Divorce? Here are 6 Things to Think About

One of the biggest tasks you face when divorcing is splitting up your assets. Chances are your home is the largest asset you share with your partner, and it may seem overwhelming to determine how to split up this asset. As a realtor who has gone through a divorce myself – considering these very same questions – here are a few things to think about to help make the process as smooth and painless as possible: Reach an agreement on…

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Marriage + Infidelity = Divorce? Not so fast.

Last fall, I read an article about infidelity in Divorce Magazine by Steven D. Solomon, Ph.D. and Lorie J. Teagno, Ph.D., clinical psychologists who had just released a book, Intimacy after Infidelity: How to Rebuild & Affair-Proof Your Marriage. They shared an interesting statistic: that 60 to 75 percent of couples who experienced a betrayal stayed together. As a divorce attorney, I work hard to help my clients navigate through a complex process that is usually the result of a…

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