askers guessers communication

Askers vs. guessers: the life-changing power of understanding each negotiation style

An insurmountable number of factors come into play that result in either effective or frustrating communication. Personality type, current mood and speaking the same language are only the beginning. Perhaps the most important factor is communication style. One of these styles that’s specifically related to negotiation has two main types: askers and guessers. This concept of askers vs. guessers first came up in a MetaFilter discussion. Askers feel comfortable requesting just about anything they want, understanding that the answer may

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Happier Holi(Days) Are Coming: A Spotify playlist for the happily divorced and newly single

Tired of all the sappy holiday music about kissing your special someone under the mistletoe? Us too. Even if you are in love (again) and immersed in the romance of the season, there’s no use crying over a song about lost love and missing you-know-who. You need a playlist of inspiring, kick-ass songs for solo time this time of year. We created a playlist of Christmas, Hannukah, Kwanzaa and other festive tunes that don’t have triggers to make you feel

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Movies to watch if you’re divorced (or just thinking about it)

When you’re experiencing a powerful life change, like divorce, watching a movie can be a wonderful coping mechanism. Movies about divorce embody our experiences and can validate our feelings. They can also help us feel better and help us purge out the emotions we’ve bottled up inside. There are hundreds of movies about divorce. Here are a few of our favorites to watch when you need a laugh, cry, reality check, or motivation. When you’re curious about divorce… Marriage Story

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How to enjoy the holidays after divorce

The holidays can be a hard time for anyone, but especially for those going through or recently divorced. It’s a double whammy when you have kids involved, as their favorite traditions with the whole family suddenly look a whole lot different. So, how can you enjoy the holidays? There are ways you can fill the void of holidays past and create new, joyful memories and traditions. Here are some of the things you can do to lift your spirits this

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5 ways smart people succeed during divorce

You just found out you’re getting divorced. Your mind is running 1,000 miles an hour. Will the kids be OK? Will I have enough money? Where am I going to live? I understand. I’ve been there, too. As a divorce lawyer and divorced father of two, I know this time is full of uncertainty. That’s why I wrote my bestselling book, I Just Want This Done: How Smart, Successful People Get Divorced Without Losing Their Kids, Money, and Minds.  Like

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6 ways forgiving your ex gives you power

You’ve probably heard the phrase “forgive and forget” many times and it’s probably made you roll your eyes concerning your ex. After all, how can you forget all the pain and frustration they put you through? Truth is, you probably won’t forget, at least for a long time. But luckily, you can easily forgive — and the sooner, the better. Forgiveness instantly gives you power — the power to heal, give and receive love, and attract more of what you want

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Is your ex passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, or assertive?

Ever feel like you’re speaking a different language than someone who should understand you perfectly — like your ex? Chances are, you have different communication styles. This can lead to misunderstandings, frustration and fights.  The four main communication styles are: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive and assertive. As hard as we try to be clear, kind and assertive, emotions often muddle things up. You might find that you use a mix of communication styles and that certain people bring out negative tendencies

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Dos and don’ts for what to wear in court

You’re probably familiar with the career advice “dress for the job you want regardless of the job you have” (or lack thereof). What you wear sends messages about who you are to others, and can empower you to be your best self. Dressing for success in court can indeed help your side. So, how should you dress? The short answer is: dress in whatever makes you feel good about your case. You need to look polished yet comfortable. For some,

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The waiting game: How to deal with big decisions before your divorce is final

Did you know that the divorce “waiting period” – the time you need to wait between filing your initial divorce paperwork and getting your final divorce decree – can be upwards of 6 months or more, depending on what state you live in? So, what happens if during that time you and your spouse live in separate households? How will you continue to pay your bills? How will you and your spouse share parenting time and where will the kids

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Can you really afford to keep the home you shared with your ex?

In divorce, one of the largest assets couples must divide is the marital home. This is the home you lived in together as a couple, and maybe where you raised your children. What you and your ex decide to do with the marital home can be one of the biggest (and most emotional!) decisions of your divorce. In a lot of divorces, there’s one spouse who really wants to keep the marital home. Maybe the children are still young and

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