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Download: Divorce Glossary of Terms

Legalese made easy. This document has all the terms you’re likely to hear with definitions in plain English. Join us and download this free glossary of legal terms.

The Hello Divorce Worksheet

This worksheet breaks down all of the things you need to think through and resolve before you can finalize your divorce.

Divorce Process Flowchart

Visualize the divorce process start to finish with this handy flowchart which explains all the steps that need to be taken before you can toast to your divorce.

Ten Important Laws You Need to Know About (if You’re Getting a Divorce in California)

1. Spousal Support (Family Code Section 4320): While pre-judgment spousal support is generally calculated using a formula, long-term spousal support is determined by review of various factors. Some of the factors the court considers include:...

Complete List of CA, CO, UT Divorce Forms—with Links

Our exhaustive list of California divorce forms with links to download them.

How to Prepare for a Meeting with Your Lawyer or Divorce Coach

You've decided to take the next step toward divorce and scheduled a meeting with a lawyer or legal coach. Maybe you're wondering what to do ahead of your meeting. Doing a bit of research can...

Download: 10 Tips to Make Your Divorce Easier and Less Costly

You’ve made the decision to get divorced. Now you aren’t sure where to start. Getting through the divorce doesn’t have to be terrible and costly. After all, you don’t want to work against each other...

California Property and Debt Division Cheat Sheet

When you and your spouse are ready to dive into the ‘nitty-gritty’ and divide your assets and debts, use this spreadsheet for everything from weighing your options, negotiating with your spouse (and/or his or her...

Dividing Personal Property Spreadsheet Example

Your first step to make the apportioning process more manageable is to make a spreadsheet that lists all of your property. Sign up for a free account to view our tips and download our example...

When are Attorney Fees Awarded in a Divorce Action in California?

It’s no secret that hiring an attorney is expensive. Even if you are using a lawyer on a ‘limited scope’ basis to help you only with strategy or to review and revise your forms, it...

Email and Divorce: Four Important Tips

For many of us, email is a primary method of communication for everything from connecting with family members and friends to running our businesses and talking to our children’s teachers. Email can be super helpful...

Which Type of Mediation Would Work Best for You? The Three Types, Explained

Wondering what type of mediator is right for you? Michael Lubofsky shares an informative resource explaining the three general types of mediation services. If one or more of these techniques piques your interest, ask your...

Keeping Divorce Conversations Productive

First things first. If you want to negotiate an agreement with your spouse, you have to remember (and accept) the following principles: • Be mindful that your purpose is to avoid arguing and to be...

What County and Courthouse Do I File for Divorce in California?

So you’ve made the decision to file for divorce. You need to know what county to file your paperwork in and what address should be used on your court forms (or risk the possibility of...

Should I File a Response to Divorce in California?

If you have been served with the Summons (FL-110) and Petition for Dissolution of Marriage (FL-100), you are the Respondent. Once you’ve been served, you have to file a Response (FL-120) within 30 days unless...

I Missed the Deadline to Respond to My Spouse’s Petition for Divorce in California. What Do I Do Now?

If you missed the deadline to file your Response to the Petition (30 days after the date of personal service), you will first need to confirm whether or not your spouse has filed a Request...

Pre-Leaving Checklist

If you have one foot out the door, you may be tempted to run and as fast as you can. But before you do, it’s important to do a few things to be as prepared...

My spouse can earn more but refuses to. How is this handled for purposes of Child Support?

When we calculate child support, we generally use the actual incomes of both spouses. But what happens when your spouse is under earning? That is, s/he is working less than full time and/or is not...

Presenting Evidence in Family Court

Most people don’t expect the Evidence Code to apply in family law. The fact is, it often does. Even when standing before a judge with an informal approach (i.e., they allow evidence to be considered...

What to Wear to Court

As a general rule, you should think of the courtroom as a formal environment. Dress as you would when going for an important job interview or to church. You can be barred from the courtroom...

Divide, Equalize, and Offset, or Cash Out Retirement Accounts in California?

There are several types of retirement benefits that you or your spouse may have. The IRS provides descriptions of the different plans here. The most common plans are defined benefit plans (think: pensions), defined contribution plans...

Instructions for Restoring Your Maiden Name in California

Many people change their names when they get married, but when they get divorced, some individuals wish to have their former name restored. If you would like to keep your name the same, then there...

Five Reasons Your CA Divorce Judgment May Have Been Rejected (and What to Do about It)

You have spent hours poring over all of the forms necessary to finalize your divorce. You researched online, browsed a DIY book, and maybe even had a meeting or two with a lawyer. You were...

Changing a Child’s Last Name in California

What’s in a name? Well, for some people, a lot. At divorce, one parent may want to change their child’s last name. Usually this involves creating a hyphenated last name, so that the child’s surname...

Five Points to Consider if You or Your Spouse Has a Business in California

1. A Business Is an Asset Though the spouse who owns the business may feel proprietary over it, a business is an asset. And because it is an asset there must be a determination of...

What is the Legal Status of Your Case in California?

Wondering whether your JUDGMENT has been processed by the court? Concerned that your spouse has filed a request for child support without notifying you? In most counties you can check the status of your case...

Spousal Support A-Z in California

A key issue that arises in divorce proceedings is spousal support, AKA alimony. Spousal support comes in two varieties: temporary spousal support and long-term spousal support. It must be requested by one of the parties....

Options for Long-Term Spousal Support in California

In a nutshell, long-term spousal support (also referred to as ‘post judgment’ support or ‘permanent’ support) usually lasts for up to half the length of the marriage (assuming your marriage is less than 10 years)....

10+ (Non-legal) Essential Apps to Rely on While Uncoupling

Getting unmarried can sometimes be as expensive, insanely time consuming and detail driven as planning your wedding. When we tie the knot in the first place, we use wedding planners, online worksheets, and various other...

10 Tips for Writing a Persuasive Family Law Declaration to be Attached to a California Request for Orders

A declaration is a written statement made under the penalty of perjury. If you are filing a “Request for Order” (or responding to a “Request for Order”) asking that the Judge enter orders providing you...

Mandatory Financial Disclosures in California: In a Nutshell

In California, each party to a divorce is required to complete a set of mandatory documents entitled “Preliminary Declaration of Disclosures” prior to any Judge or Commissioner granting their divorce. These documents include an Income...

Child Custody Recommending Counseling and Mediation: What’s the Difference? (CA)

In a case involving children where the parties have not agreed on a parenting plan, the Family Law Court mandates that parents “mediate” prior to a hearing on the matter. Mediators have experience in counseling...

7 Tips for Collecting Your Family Law Money Judgment

So, you have spent months (or maybe even years) reaching a resolution in your matter, but the process is not over yet. If you received a money judgment against your ex-spouse as part of your...

A Quickie Divorce?

We have all heard the horror stories: “my divorce lasted longer than my marriage” or “it dragged out for years.” Thankfully, if you have minimal assets and are searching for ways to streamline your divorce...

Five Tips for Successful Divorce Mediation in 2022

Mediation works when done right. It can be a fabulous way to reduce animosity, finalize a divorce quickly, keep your personal life more private, save money, and resolve conflict. But mediation is not right for...

Why mediate your legal matter?

Mediating your legal matter has many benefits including privacy, cost, control, and reduction of animosity.

Answers to Your Questions About Spousal Support

One of the key issues that arises in a divorce proceeding is spousal support, aka alimony. Spousal support comes in two varieties, temporary spousal support and long-term spousal support. Spousal support is something that has...

Pre-Divorce Planning: Do You Have an Exit Strategy?

If you are considering leaving your Domestic Partner or Spouse, a good plan of action is essential. I am not talking about taking your ex for all you can. What is most important is making...

Tips for Court Ordered Child Custody Mediation (CA)

What is child custody mediation? If you and your former partner are unable to agree on child custody and/or visitation issues, you both will be required to participate in mandatory child custody mediation. The objective...

10 Tips for the Self Represented in Family Court

For the uninitiated, the idea of representing yourself in family court seems outrageous. Why wouldn’t you hire a professional? Well, there are a number of reasons self-representation might be right for your situation. Whether you’ve...

What to Do When Your Spouse is Missing

You may be wondering how to file for a divorce or other family law action when you don’t know where the respondent is. Sometimes the court allows litigants to serve documents other than by personal...

What is a Legal Coach, and Should I Get One?

How Long Does It Take to Get a Divorce? (CA)

How long does it take to get a divorce? The answer – as usual – is, "It depends.’ Before you can even file the paperwork, at least one of you must have been a California...

How Can I Get Parentage Rights if We’re Not Married?

"My ex-girlfriend is pregnant with our child, but she refuses to speak to me right now, and I’m worried I won’t be able to see our child when he’s born. What can I do?" In...

What is a QDRO?

When you get a divorce, the only way to get money paid from one spouse’s retirement account to the other spouse is with a QDRO. Learn what they are and how to get one.

How Do I File for Divorce if I’m Representing Myself?

If you've decided you'll self-represent in divorce, you'll need to get familiar with a few terms: in pro per, pro se party, in propria person. Those words all describe you, the self-represented litigant. First, you will...

What Are My Options if I Want to End My Marriage? (CA)

There are three ways to end a marriage in California: you can get divorced, legally separated, or have an annulment. Only one party needs to want to end the marriage, and no agreement is necessary....

Ending Your Marriage: Separation vs. Divorce vs. Annulment

Sign up for a free subscription to read more about the finality of your options, as well as the differences between divorce, annulment, and separation.

How Much Will a Divorce Cost?

I want to resolve my divorce with as little expense as possible, and I've decided to represent myself to avoid heavy lawyer fees. How much will it cost to get this done? To initiate your...

You, Your Spouse, and … (Third Parties Joined to Divorce Actions)

Most people are aware that in Divorce or Domestic Partnership Dissolution, certain employee benefit plans can be joined to the action to ensure that retirement accounts are divided prior to the completion of the case....

Divorce Court 101

Most people who end up in a family law courtroom have never been to court before. Perhaps they’ve served on a jury or appeared for a traffic infraction, but rarely has a divorce litigant actually...

What is Financial Discovery?

Not all Family Law cases require financial discovery. However, there are many cases in which a spouse must take the extra step of investigating all financial issues of a marriage or registered domestic partnership to...

Rules of Engagement in Divorce: Play Fair or Pay Up

Between the time the divorce petition is filed and the final entry of judgment, parties are under the purview of the Family Court System. This allows parties to request their family law judge make certain...

Finalizing the Divorce that Won’t Quit

Even uncontested divorces can be tricky to finalize when you are not an experienced divorce lawyer. In California, if you and your spouse have agreed on all issues (child custody, child support, spousal support, property...

Do I Need an Attorney?

I am getting divorced, and I think it’s pretty simple. My spouse and I get along pretty well, all things considered. Lawyers can be so expensive; do I really need one? The answer to this...

How Can I Enforce a Court Order for Child Visitation or Custody?

If your spouse isn’t complying with visitation schedules and child support rulings, you might just be pulling your hair out in desperate need of some stability, wondering where to go next. First, try speaking to...

How Do I “Serve” My Spouse with a Divorce in California?

"I keep hearing that I have to ‘serve’ my spouse for a divorce. What does this mean, and how can I do it?" The law affords everyone due process. In other words, before you can...

What is a Divorce by Default in California?

As if "divorce by default" isn’t obscure enough, there are actually two types, and one is very different from the other. Both types refer to a divorce where one party filed a Petition for Dissolution...

I’m Getting a Divorce. Which Service Should I Choose?

You are smart. You’ve decided to get some help with your divorce because you recognize that, apart from it being a “time suck” and an emotional drain, divorce is complex and has significant implications. Going...

How to Slay Your Divorce Negotiations Like a Seasoned Pro

I’ll admit it. I don’t have a magic wand. I wish I did! But what I do have is 15 years of experience helping people navigate out of their marriage in integrity. I’ve settled the...

The Essential Guide to Divorce in California (Without Lawyers)

Are you trying to avoid “lawyering up” but don’t know where to start? You’ve come to the right place. Divorce in California has three main steps (assuming you and your spouse both want to stay...

Colorado Mandatory Financial Disclosures: What You Need to Know

In Colorado, both parties to a family law case are required to complete mandatory financial disclosures. This is true for divorces, child support modifications, allocation of parental responsibilities matters, and the like. So, what does...

What is Marital Property? (UT)

Utah is an “equitable distribution” or “marital property” state as opposed to a “community property” state. This means that the marital property is divided in an “equitable” manner. So if your name appears on a...

Should I File a Response to the Petition for Dissolution of Marriage in Utah?

If you are served with a Petition for Divorce and Summons in Utah, you are considered the Respondent spouse. The Petition is the document your spouse has filed with the Court to initiate divorce proceedings....

Utah Divorce Education & Orientation Courses (Mandatory for Parents of Minors)

These classes are mandatory for divorcing parents of children under the age of 18. The Petitioner spouse must attend these courses within 60 days of filing the Petition for Divorce, and the Respondent spouse must...

Court-Ordered Mediation: What To Expect (UT)

In Utah, mediation is only made mandatory by the court when a divorce is filed with contested issues, meaning issues you and your spouse are not in agreement upon. In such cases, the Court mandates...

What Military Members Should Know When Divorcing in Utah

Military divorces can be complicated, whether you and/or your spouse are active members or past members. Below, you’ll find information to help you through the specifics of your process. Filing, Serving, and Answering the Petition...

The Essential Guide to Divorce in Colorado (Without Lawyers)

So you are trying to avoid ‘lawyering up’ but you don’t know where to start? You’ve come to the right place.   Divorce in Colorado has 3 main steps (assuming you and your spouse both...

All the Info and Documents You Need for Financial Disclosures in Utah

Most of our clients are surprised to hear that they have to complete financial disclosures. While Hello Divorce may be handling the bulk of your divorce process, the following is a list of the documents...

How to File a Divorce Fee Waiver (UT)

Filing fees can be costly, but in certain cases you may qualify for a fee waiver based on your financial situation. When you file your petition or response form, you will need to pay the...

How to File an Uncontested Divorce & What to Expect (UT)

Filing for divorce can seem scary and difficult, but we’re here to make it easier. Let’s walk through the process of an uncontested divorce in Utah, from start to finish. As well, please note that...

What are Temporary Separation Orders and Decrees of Separate Maintenance? (UT)

Temporary Separation In cases where you and your spouse want to separate temporarily, intend to divorce if reconciliation doesn’t happen, this option might suit you. Either party can apply to the Court for a temporary...

How to Modify Child Support or Alimony During COVID-19 in Utah?

Losing your job or small business is devastating, especially if you’re also paying child support and/or alimony. While it is stressful, you shouldn’t be down on yourself; so many people are suffering the effects of...

What Are My Options if I Want to End My Marriage in Colorado?

In Colorado, there are three ways that you can end your marriage – you can get a divorce (known as dissolution of marriage), become legally separated, or you can request an annulment of your marriage....

Download: The Ultimate Guide to Divorce Mediation

So you have decided on a cooperative divorce. Congratulations! No really, we mean it.  You will be saving thousands of dollars in legal fees and be in control of your own destiny—not leaving it up...

Can I Still Get a Divorce During COVID in Colorado? Virtual Court & What to Expect

Colorado courts have proven to be highly adaptable, transforming antiquated, in-person court requirements into safe, efficient, virtual courtrooms. Through telephone conferences and video conferencing, the Courts are now able to hold most hearings remotely, allowing...

Colorado Divorce: What If We Don’t Have An Agreement?

The divorce process is easier when you and your spouse have an amicable relationship and can agree on most things (easier said than done, we know). However, even if there is a full agreement, all...

All the Info and Documents You Need for Financial Disclosures in Colorado

Most of our clients are surprised to hear that even when they’ve reached a full agreement on all divorce-related issues, financial disclosures are still required for both parties. While Hello Divorce may be handling the...

Should I File a Response to the Petition for Divorce in Colorado?

If you are served with a Petition for Dissolution of Marriage and Summons for Dissolution of Marriage in Colorado you are considered the Respondent. The Petition is the document your spouse has filed with the...

The Ultimate Colorado Divorce Checklist

If you’re divorcing, you realize there are A LOT of forms – for each step of the process too. Use our checklist to ensure that you have completed every document needed to get your Colorado...

Colorado: What County and Courthouse Do I File For Divorce In?

So you’ve made the decision to file for divorce. You need to know what county to file your paperwork in and what address should be used on your court forms (or risk the possibility of...

Changing Your Name During or After Divorce in Colorado

Many people take their spouse’s last name when they get married. But when they get divorced, some people want their previous name back. In Colorado, this process is called name change restoration. If you do...

Colorado: I was Served with a Petition for Divorce, Now What?

Your spouse has filed for divorce and you have received the initial paperwork. So, what are your next (or first) steps?  Before proceeding to your first step you must sign the Waiver and Acceptance of...

Shared, Split, or Sole Care for Your Child in Colorado? What You Need to Know.

Getting divorced with children can be a much harder, emotional experience. While needing to do what is best for you and your partner to move forward, you also have to plan for your children so...

What is an Initial Status Conference in California? (And How to Prepare)

Most of our clients never have to see the inside of a courtroom. And that’s our goal. But on occasion, you will receive a mailed notice from a local county court requiring you to “appear”...

4 Ways to Keep Your Mental & Physical Wellness in Check During Divorce

Divorce isn’t easy. The emotional toll that your breakup takes can sometimes trigger mental and physical health issues during your divorce journey. We get it. But what if you could proactively increase wellness by just...

How to Divorce Your Spouse in Colorado

Before seeking a divorce, it’s important to do your homework so you understand the divorce process, or seek legal assistance to get help understanding the nuances associated with this process. The state of Colorado has...

Five Points to Consider if You or Your Spouse Has a Business in Colorado

1. A Business Is an Asset Though the spouse who owns the business may feel proprietary over it, a business is an asset. And because it is an asset there must be a determination of...

Colorado: What is Child Custody Mediation?

Depending upon which county you reside in, or if you and your former partner are unable to agree on child custody and/or visitation issues, you will likely be required to participate in child custody mediation. ...

How is Child Support Determined in Utah?

Child support can be granted during divorce, temporary separation, or as separate maintenance. Generally speaking, there is a legal duty for parents to support their children under the age of 18 but there are exceptions,...

Should I file an answer or counter-petition to my spouse’s petition for divorce in Texas?

If you are served with an Original Petition for Divorce in Texas, you are considered the Respondent spouse. The Petition is the document your spouse has filed with the court to initiate divorce proceedings. The...

How is child support calculated in Texas?

Child support in Texas is the money a parent pays to help with the cost of raising a child, including but not limited to food, housing, clothing, daycare, school supplies and extracurricular activities. Both parents...

About serving your spouse with divorce papers in Texas

“Serving” your spouse with divorce documents can seem kind of scary. But, there’s a few ways you can do it in Texas, and some of them don’t require you to “serve” your spouse at all!...

Worksheet: Create a Texas Co-Parenting Plan

DOWNLOAD: What to Include in Your Settlement Agreement

All divorces require standard forms and processes, but the settlement agreement embodies the nitty-gritty elements specific to you and your spouse’s assets and life. We created a checklist to help you address all items necessary...

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Complete Divorce Planning Resources

DOWNLOAD: Divorce 101 – Everything you need to plan your divorce

This comprehensive download compiles all the worksheets, plans, and checklists you need to organize yourself before, during, and after your divorce. Hello Divorce helps make this process as easy and affordable as possible. Use this...

DOWNLOAD: The Hello Divorce Planning Checklist

This checklist outlines the major tasks you may need to complete before, during, and after your divorce. Hello Divorce helps make this process as easy and affordable as possible. Use this checklist to help you...

Top Resources for Divorce in California

Want to know what you need to do next? Whether you’re just thinking about divorce, are in the middle of one, or are navigating your post-divorce life, here are the top resources for people in...

Top Resources for Divorce in Colorado

Want to know what you need to do next? Whether you’re just thinking about divorce, are in the middle of one, or are navigating your post-divorce life, here are the top resources for people in...

Top Resources for Divorce in Texas

Want to know what you need to do next? Whether you’re just thinking about divorce, are in the middle of one, or are navigating your post-divorce life, here are the top resources for people in...

Top Resources for Divorce in Utah

Want to know what you need to do next? Whether you’re just thinking about divorce, are in the middle of one, or are navigating your post-divorce life, here are the top resources for people in...

Everything you need to know about divorce judgment processing

One of the most common frustrations during the divorce process is waiting for the court to process your final divorce judgment, which makes you officially divorced. While nothing can push it along any faster, understanding...

How do I serve my spouse with divorce papers in Texas?

I keep hearing that I have to ‘serve’ my spouse for a divorce. What does this mean? First things first – a divorce is actually a type of lawsuit. And before you can sue someone,...

How is spousal maintenance decided and calculated in Texas?

Spousal maintenance, also called spousal support or alimony, is either something agreed upon by both parties or is ordered by the court, depending on the circumstances of the marriage and consideration of various factors. It...

I was Served with a Petition for Divorce in Utah, Now What?

Your spouse has filed for divorce and you have received the initial paperwork. So, what are your next (or first) steps?  Signing a Stipulation If you agree to the terms of the Petition, meaning that...

How Do I “Serve” My Spouse with a Divorce in Utah?

I keep hearing that I have to ‘serve’ my spouse for a divorce. What does this mean, and how can I do it? The law affords everyone due process.’ Or in plain English, before you...

The Ultimate Utah Divorce Checklist

If you’re divorcing, you realize there are A LOT of forms – for each step of the process too. Use our checklist to ensure that you have completed every document needed to get your Utah...

Complete List of UT Divorce Forms – with Links

Serving the Petition for Divorce NOTE: if you have an uncontested divorce and your spouse has signed a stipulation, you do not need to serve any forms upon them. Acceptance of Service, Appearance, Consent, and...

Changing Your Name During or After Divorce in Utah

Many people take their spouse’s last name when they get married, but when they get divorced, some people want their previous names back. In Utah, this process is called Name Change. If you do not...

How to Keep Your Divorce Conversations Productive

If you want better communication during divorce, remember first things first. If you want to negotiate a divorce agreement, you have to remember (and accept) the following principles: Be mindful that your purpose is to...

What County and Courthouse Do I File For Divorce In Utah?

So you’ve made the decision to file for divorce. You need to know what county to file your paperwork in and what address should be used on your court forms (or risk the possibility of...

What Colorado Military Members Should Know When Divorcing

Military divorces can be complicated, whether you and/or your spouse are active members or past members. Below, you’ll find information to help you through the specifics of your process. Filing, Serving and Answering the Petition...

6 Mistakes Men, Especially Dads, Make During the Divorce Process

Divorce can be a tricky process for many men to navigate, particularly fathers. Men and dads get divorced, of course, but some divorces are more successful than others.  If you are a man and or...

Divorce 101: California Divorce Law Video Tutorial

You may have already heard me say it before: Divorce is both Procedure & Substance. Procedure = forms, processing with the court, “service of process” (delivery of documents to your spouse). Substance = the issues...

How to file an uncontested divorce in Texas & what to expect

Filing for divorce seems scary and difficult, right? We’re here to make it easier and less stressful. Below, we’ll walk you through the process of an uncontested divorce in Texas, from start to finish. Just...

How to file an agreed divorce with minor children in Texas & what to expect

Filing for divorce seems scary and difficult, right? We’re here to make it easier and less stressful. Below, we’ll walk you through the process of an agreed divorce with minor children in Texas, from start...

What Texas military members should know when divorcing

If you or your spouse are active or past members of the military, getting a divorce can be more complicated. Below, you’ll find information to help you through the specifics of your process.  How do...

QDRO (Qualified Domestic Relations Order) and Divorce

Tips for Getting Your Spouse On Board with Mediation in California

Mediation, whether through Hello Divorce, with a trained mediation counselor or a divorce financial planner, can be a great option for resolving the issues pertaining to your divorce. At Hello Divorce, we not only guide...

New California Law: The Judge Can Now Decide Who Gets Fido

In California, as of January 1, 2019, a judge may make “custody” orders regarding your pet. (AB-2274). This change in the law means that pets are no longer treated exclusively as property to be divided...

Divorce Therapy vs Coaching: How to Choose the Right Option for You

Therapist and divorce coach Dr. Kristin Davin, Psy.D. shares her best advice for choosing between divorce coaching or therapy.

Checklist: Questions to Ask a Potential Divorce Therapist or Coach

Interviewing a few therapists and/or divorce coaches in advance is an excellent investment of your time and a terrific way to determine fit – which can be the most important factor in a therapy/coaching relationship....

5 Questions to Ask Your Potential Divorce Lawyer

If you’ve made up your mind and there’s no alternative but divorce, talking to at least a few lawyers is always a good idea. The first consultation is usually always free, so you’ve got nothing...

Why You Shouldn’t Panic if Your Spouse Talks to a Lawyer

Learning that your ex has sought legal help is *not* a reason to panic. They should get advice from an expert — and you should, too. The more information both parties have, the more amicable...

You’ve Been Dumped. Now What?

I was married and divorced by the time I turned 30. Not long after that, I entered what I like to call a “charitable rebound” that lasted about two years. After we “officially” moved in...

How a Divorce Financial Planner Can Ease Your Transition

Every month, I offer a workshop to women in my community who are either contemplating divorce or in the early stages of divorce. On the second Saturday of each month, we invite a therapist and...

Your Spouse Did Not Respond to Your Petition for Divorce in California. What Happens Next?

After you have served the Petition, your spouse has 30 calendar days to “respond”. By respond, we mean filing a “Response” (FL-12).If the thirtieth day falls on a weekend or a holiday, your spouse has...

What Are the Different Types of Court Hearings I Might Have to Attend? (CA)

The most common type of hearings in Family Court are related to child support, spousal support and/or child custody. These hearings are scheduled after one spouse files a “Request for Order.” Depending on the complexity...

A Petition and Response Has Been Filed, What’s Next for Divorce in California?

After both parties have filed and served their initial documents, the Petition, Summons and Response (Step 1), the real work begins. Step 2 is deciding if you need to file a Request for Order (“RFO”)...

California Divorce Checklist

Use our checklist to make sure you have completed every document you could possibly need to get your divorce judgment past those pesky clerks and into the hands of the judge, who will (finally) sign...

What is Contempt?

In the course of your divorce, the family court may issue a range of orders, including visitation and custody determinations, orders to pay attorney’s fees, and divisions of property. When an ex-spouse (or soon to...

Special Considerations for Your Same Sex Divorce in California

We have all heard the good news. California no longer recognizes a distinction between same-sex and opposite-sex marriages. Any couple can now obtain a marriage license and wed, regardless of that couple’s sexual orientation. In...

California Family Court Custody Mediation vs. Private Mediation: Which Should I Choose?

The goal of mediation is to help you and your spouse come to agreements regarding your children. Assuming you and your spouse are in agreement, you can choose to opt out of working with a...

How to Get a New Judge to Hear Your Case in California

Help! My judge clearly has different religious or ethical views than I do. How can I get a new judge to ensure my hearing is unbiased? This can be a tricky one. There are some...

Financial Questions You Should Be Asking During Divorce, by Age Range

Many of the financial issues surrounding divorce apply across the board, regardless of your age range. That said, there are pertinent financial questions to ask during divorce based on your age range. Read them here....

Six Steps to Take Before You Begin Divorce Mediation

Thinking about divorce mediation? Excellent idea if you and your spouse have the shared goal of uncoupling amicably or dissolving your marriage in a fair and cooperative way but have too many issues to resolve...

5 Ways to Get Your Divorce “Unstuck”

OK, so you feel totally stuck. All you want is closure and yet your divorce is lingering on and on. You’ve tried everything. You’ve tried nothing. You don’t have any clue what to do next....

Forensic Accountants: What They Do and When to Use One

Forensic accountants are growing increasingly popular in divorce cases, and for good reason – unraveling a couple’s financial picture and then dividing that equitably is tricky business. Oftentimes, it’s the distrust that income is being...

What the Bleep is Divorce? (aka Answers to all the questions that feel too overwhelming to ask.)

Everyone knows someone who has been or is getting divorced. Divorce isn’t rocket science. But it is confusing, and a process. It’s essentially filing a lawsuit and, as we all know, when a lawsuit is...

How to DIY *Pro* Your California Divorce

Californians looking for an easier way to complete their divorce in California can use Hello Divorce’s fill-in-the-blank divorce paperwork through our Divorce Navigator. It’s a game-changer for DIY divorce. Our web application allows you to...

How To File a Fee Waiver for Colorado Divorce Court 

When you file your petition or response form, you will need to pay the filing fee with the court. This is normally $230 if you are filing the petition and $116 if you are filing...

Colorado: We Agree on Everything, So Why Do We Have to Go to Divorce Court?

What to expect when you’re (forced) to go to court… The Colorado divorce process is frustrating for a lot of people. We sympathize. Even when you have a complete agreement on all (divorce-related) issues, expect...

I’ve Been Served With a Divorce Petition in California, Now What?

You have now received a Divorce Petition (FL-100) and Summons (FL-110). If you have minor children with your spouse, you likely also received a UCCJEA* form (FL-105). So, now what?  First Sign and return the...

Complete List of Colorado Divorce Forms with Links

JDF 205 and JDF 206 – Motion to File Without Payment and Supporting Financial Affidavit If you cannot afford the filing fees and other associated costs payable to the court, this form can be filled...

Complete List of California Divorce Forms—with Links

Petition (FL-100) This is the document that initializes your divorce with the court. It is the first thing you file and requires a $435 filing fee. Download Petition for Divorce now. Template: Petition for Divorce...

What is an Initial Status Conference in Colorado? And How Do You Prepare?

Don’t panic! An Initial Status Conference (ISC) is just a way for the court to assess where each party is and what you agree upon. It’s informal and not a hearing. You present no evidence...

What’s the Difference Between Temporary vs. Permanent Support in Colorado?

Maintenance, also referred to as alimony, can be ordered for two different phases of divorce: 1) during the divorce proceedings, which is referred to as “temporary maintenance,” and 2) after the divorce is finalized, which...

Colorado: Filing for Divorce on Your Own vs. Jointly?

It does not matter to the Court who the Petitioner (the one who initiates the process) and who the Respondent is – there is no inherent prejudice or benefit for being one or the other....

What is Marital Property in Divorce?

If your state is an “equitable distribution” or “marital property” state as opposed to a “community property” state. This means that the marital property is divided in an “equitable” manner. So if your name appears...

Colorado (Required) Parenting Classes by County

When divorcing with minor children in Colorado, some counties will require you to attend parenting classes. Click on your county’s class link in the list below to see what is required. County Approved Parenting Classes...

How Do I “Serve” My Spouse with a Divorce in Colorado?

I keep hearing that I have to ‘serve’ my spouse for a divorce. What does this mean, and how can I do it? The law affords everyone ‘due process.’ Or in plain English, before you...

The Main Issue When Divorcing with Children in Colorado: What Does Parental Responsibility Mean? How is it Decided?

Colorado does not use terms like “joint custody” and “sole custody.” Instead, the term is “parental responsibility,” and the Court’s default approach is that it should be equal between the two parents. However, the Court’s...

Court-Ordered Mediation: What To Expect in Colorado

Mediation is only mandatory if you and your spouse do not agree on all of the issues. If there is no agreement after the mediation has taken place, a contested hearing will be set. Mediation...

All the Info and Documents You Need for Financial Disclosures in California

Most of our clients are surprised to hear that even when they’ve reached a full agreement on all divorce-related issues, financial disclosures are still required for the Petitioner (and in some counties, the Respondent, too)....

QDRO Glossary

Defining the QDRO-related terms you need to know.

Get to Resolution and Peace with Less Expense, Time and Stress with Mindful Divorce Mediation

As one of the top family law litigators in the country, I know the downside of the traditional litigation process. For many years as a top divorce attorney I watched thousands of clients spend huge...

California Divorce Process: How and Where to File for Divorce

When it comes to the California divorce process, the first step is knowing how and where to file for divorce. You or your spouse will have had to live in California for six months, and...

Divorce in California Without Hiring a Lawyer – But Still Get the Support You Need

Wondering how to divorce in California, step-by-step? You can save time, money and (more) heartache by navigating the California divorce process with Hello Divorce. Our memberships and step-by-step guides can help you DIY divorce on...

Do I need to meet with a divorce lawyer before mediation?

It's a question I hear a lot: "Do I need to meet with a divorce lawyer or coach before I begin mediation with my spouse?" Short answer:

It’s November. Can I still get a divorce this year in California?

Q: “It’s November. Can I still get a divorce this year? If not, is there anything I can do to formally separate our property, earnings and accounts to prepare to start fresh in the New...

The Marie Kondo Divorce: Declutter and Get Back on Track

Nothing causes anxiety like a divorce that's "stuck." The solution? Declutter your divorce and get it back on track.

Dear Divorce Lawyer: The Hard Truth on How and When to Communicate with Your Lawyer

Understanding when to communicate with your lawyer can save you time and money. You know that advice your best friend gave you about writing a scathing note to your ex when you are fuming about...

Does it matter who’s “at fault” in a divorce?

So many clients walk in to my office fuming at their ex – for cheating, lying, stealing or a laundry list of other unsavory activities. They aren’t always interested in a fair divorce settlement; they...

The Top 10 California Divorce Questions We Get Asked During Intro Calls (+ answers, of course)

Answers to questions you didn’t even know you had yet: 1. We aren’t going to lawyer up, but do we need a mediator? You only need a mediator if you and your soon-to-be-ex (STBX) can’t...

My QDRO Has Been Filed … Now What?

There is a lot to think about after divorce, and that includes thinking about your Qualified Domestic Relations Order(s) (QDRO), which will divide your retirement plan(s). You may have questions after your QDRO is filed...

How to File a Divorce Petition in Colorado

How to File a Petition for Dissolution of Marriage? It can be done in one of two ways: jointly or separately.

Ready to Finish Your Divorce? Here’s How

“I started my divorce ages ago and I just want to get it done but I have no idea how. Every time I try to complete it, the court rejects my forms. What can I...

How to Change Your Name After Divorce

The benefits and drawbacks of changing your last name How to change your name after divorce Frequently asked questions Want to reclaim your maiden name after divorce? The legal process of changing your surname is...

Life Insurance After Divorce

The purpose of life insurance Two types of life insurance Determining the cash value of your whole life policy The cash value of a term life insurance policy What to do with your life insurance...

Selling or Buying Your Home During or After Divorce

Who gets the house after a divorce?  Your options if you decide to sell after divorce Selling your property while separated but before divorce is finalized  What to do if the court orders the sale...

A Beginner’s Guide to Divorce Mediation: Everything You Need to Know

“I want to protect my interests, but I don’t want a long, messy, and expensive divorce.” Does this resonate with you? Probably. Contrary to popular belief, most people do not want to battle it out in divorce...

Divorce Discovery: What to Expect and How to Deal With It

YoIt’s not easy to decide to file for a divorce. Even if the divorce is amicable, you and your spouse must settle a wide range of issues. For instance, you must split marital assets and...

In a No-Fault State? What That Means for Your Divorce

If you live in a no-fault divorce state, you can divorce your spouse without having to prove your spouse did something wrong. In that same vein, they can divorce you without proving that you did...

Contested vs. Uncontested Divorce: How They Differ

When we hear that a couple we know is divorcing, the first thing we usually think about isn’t the legal procedures ahead; it’s the lost love. Two people who once loved each other enough to...

What Does a Mediator Do in Divorce?

Considering hiring a mediator to assist you during your divorce? There are certain tasks mediators can do—and some believe they can, but do not. In general, a divorce mediator is unable to provide you with...

What is a Legal Coach?

A legal coach is a fairly new concept in family law. Working with a legal coach allows people going through a divorce to better understand the process and gain the skills needed to essentially represent...

How to Ride Out the Divorce Rollercoaster of Emotions and Get Grounded

Going through a divorce and all the emotions involved is like riding a rollercoaster. You’re at the amusement park and have been eyeing that big ride. It’s a bit overwhelming and outside your comfort zone....