Positive Affirmations for Someone Going Through Divorce

Divorce is anything but a walk in the park. In fact, it's more like an emotional roller coaster. But no matter where you are on the ride to separation, positive thinking can go a long way toward making your divorce process less turbulent.

The power of positive thinking

Positive thinking isn't ignorance of the negativity of a situation. Rather, it's the conscious decision to embrace an optimistic outlook instead of settling for the worst-case scenario. We often associate positive thinking with situations like job interviews and first dates. However, an optimistic outlook can help people in negative situations just as much as hopeful ones.

Channeling positive energy can help people manifest their desires and boost their mood. Even in the most difficult life events, positive thinking can reduce stress and improve a person's outlook on life. 

What are positive affirmations?

Positive affirmations are simple statements, often single sentences, you can repeat to yourself as you work through challenging moments in your life. With positive affirmations, you reframe the negative thoughts that spring to mind during times of sadness, pain, shame, or guilt. 

Most of the time, positive affirmations help us see the brighter side of a situation, offering encouragement in particularly dark moments.

When to use positive affirmations

You can use positive affirmations whenever they benefit you the most. Many people use positive affirmations in these situations:

  • During periods of intense anger, sadness, or anxiety
  • During stressful situations like a job interview
  • Whenever a confidence boost is needed

Positive affirmations are a fantastic tool for anyone going through a divorce.

Positive affirmations for someone going through divorce

Whether you initiated the divorce or were hit with an unexpected divorce, this life situation can leave you feeling angry, heartbroken, ashamed, and uncertain about your future.

All of your uncomfortable feelings are valid. But allowing yourself to sit in those negative feelings day after day can take a dramatic toll on your mental health. For this reason, many people use positive affirmations as a way to cope and focus their attention on something lighter.

There are many fantastic positive affirmations out there for people going through a divorce. Here are 10 to get you started:

  • "I am at peace with my decision."
  • "Change is a part of every person’s life, and I will embrace this change with grace and ease."
  • "I am now free to become the best version of myself."
  • "I choose to be happy and hopeful even though it seems difficult right now."
  • "I am grateful for what I learned in my past relationship."
  • "My marriage may be ending, but that’s just one piece of who I am."
  • "I am still the same beautiful and attractive person I was when I married my ex."
  • "My happiness is not reliant on being with someone else."
  • "Even though my marriage did not work out, I still have a lot of love to give."
  • "Divorce is not the end of the road; it’s a new beginning."

Why create your own positive affirmations?

Countless preconstructed affirmations are already out there. But sometimes, the most beneficial thing you can do is create your own positive affirmations. 

Writing the affirmations yourself makes them more meaningful because the statements connect directly to your personal situation. Finding positive affirmations that resonate with your life can be the difference between a good result and a great result.

Tips for creating personalized positive affirmations

  • Focus on the underlying cause of your distress. Think: What am I telling myself at this moment? What negative thoughts am I experiencing, and why are they happening? 
  • Replace negativity with positivity. Once you gain a clear understanding of your underlying emotions and internal monologue, think about what you'd like to replace it with. Ask yourself: What do I want right now? What would I like to manifest in my life?
  • Write the affirmation. Use the present tense, and phrase the statement in a way your own brain would find believable. Example: "I am at peace with my decision to file for divorce."

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Positive thinking: Stop negative self-talk to reduce stress. Mayo Clinic.



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