Who Gets the Dog or Other Pet in a Divorce?

Can't agree who gets Fido now that you've broken up? In California and other states, a judge can determine which parent gets ownership of a pet.

What does this mean? It means that in a divorce or domestic partnership dissolution, if the parties cannot come to an agreement themselves on who gets ownership of a pet, the judge will decide for them – and they can assign sole or joint ownership.

Read: Pet Custody by State

When you divorce, one spouse may get sole custody of the pet

The court will adopt the best interest standard for the pet, asking questions like the following:

  • Which partner was the primary caretaker of the pet during the relationship?
  • Who lives in a residence that allows animals?
  • Will the pet be mistreated if they are with one party or the other?

The answers to these questions can be quite subjective. Therefore, litigation can be frightening because you cannot predict who will win. Further, the judge may order one party to care for the pet during divorce proceedings but assign permanent ownership to the other party after the divorce.

In the case of domestic abuse

A victim of domestic violence can obtain a restraining order that awards them the sole possession, care, and control of their animals. They can also obtain an order that the domestic violence perpetrator must stay away from the animal(s) and refrain from taking, selling, concealing, and attacking the pet.

How can you avoid a dispute over your pet in a divorce?

  • Consider a prenup or postnup agreement that dictates who gets the family pet in a divorce or domestic partnership dissolution.
  • Negotiate a shared "custodial" arrangement with your ex before the divorce finalizes. Many people would rather share a pet than risk the court awarding their buddy to the other partner.
  • Negotiate how medical bills will be shared and whether one pet parent will need to notify the other prior to obtaining medical treatment or a new vet.
  • Consider an exchange. For example, you might give up a cash asset or take on more than your fair share of debt in exchange for keeping your pet. If pet custody is vital to you, it may be worth giving up an asset that entices your ex.

Consider getting creative with pet custody after divorce

No family law requires the court to order shared custody of a pet, but that doesn't mean you can't agree to get creative with pet custody. Some clients have agreed to an alternating week situation with each "parent" having the pet 50% of the time. They've also agreed to terms whereby they are given a "right of first refusal" for pet care. In other words, if one spouse is going out of town, they will offer custody of the pet to the other spouse first, before choosing a pet sitter or boarding service. In any case, pets have significant bonds with their owners. 

The thought of losing a pet in a divorce can sometimes feel extremely emotional and stressful. If you're concerned about a pet custody issue, consult a legal professional for the best advice. Should you wish to discuss your pet situation with us in detail, please schedule a free 15-minute call.

Founder, CEO & Certified Family Law Specialist
Mediation, Divorce Strategy, Divorce Insights, Legal Insights
After over a decade of experience as a Certified Family Law Specialist, Mediator and law firm owner, Erin was fed up with the inefficient and adversarial “divorce corp” industry and set out to transform how consumers navigate divorce - starting with the legal process. By automating the court bureaucracy and integrating expert support along the way, Hello Divorce levels the playing field between spouses so that they can sort things out fairly and avoid missteps. Her access to justice work has been recognized by the legal industry and beyond, with awards and recognition from the likes of Women Founders Network, TechCrunch, Vice, Forbes, American Bar Association and the Pro Bono Leadership award from Congresswoman Barbara Lee. Erin lives in California with her husband and two children, and is famously terrible at board games.