Mediation is an excellent alternative to working with a traditional lawyer and can save you quite a bit of money in the divorce process.
One thing you need to know before working with a mediator is that mediators can provide legal information, but they cannot provide legal or financial advice to either party.
If you believe your understanding of your household financial situation is limited, or if you feel you do not have a good handle on how to manage debt or the investments in your brokerage and retirement accounts, consider hiring a certified divorce financial analyst (CDFA).
A CDFA provides information that allows you to advocate for yourself and negotiate a settlement or separation agreement to meet your current and future financial needs.
The job of a CDFA
A CDFA can help you:
- Gather information about your financial situation
- Analyze your spouse's disclosures
- Suggest various ways to divide assets fairly
- Obtain accurate data for use in child support and alimony calculations
- Forecast the short-term and long-term financial implications of proposed settlement options
When it comes to calculating child support or alimony (which may be called maintenance or spousal support, depending on the state), determining the income available for support can be complicated if the income of one or both spouses varies from year to year. A CDFA can review tax returns and other documents to identify income sources available for support.
How much do CDFA services cost?
CDFAs generally charge an hourly rate, but that depends on the CDFA. After charging by the hour for several years, I realized that my clients wanted to be able to call, text, or email me between our scheduled meetings without having to worry about every 15 minutes here and there adding up to extra billable hours each month.
So, while clients can still pay for my CDFA services by the hour, I launched MediationMoneyMentor.com to provide financial analysis, planning, and support for 60 days at an affordable flat rate.
Here are my four tips for obtaining a favorable financial outcome in mediation.
1. Make sure your financial affidavit is accurate and complete
One of the first steps in the mediation process is for you and your spouse to complete financial affidavits.
Terms and requirements vary from state to state, but generally, you and your spouse will be required to disclose separate and marital assets, debts, and information about your income and expenses.
These forms can be overwhelming. However, they must be accurate and complete. If not, it will be impossible for assets and debts to be divided fairly, and mistakes in calculating child support and alimony could occur.
If you haven't been the one in charge of the household finances, you might struggle to provide even the most basic information. Enlisting the help of a CDFA enables you to complete the forms much faster.
What's more, you will gain a full understanding of the significance and value of each item, such as a pension, life insurance, deferred compensation, stock options, restricted stock units, or non-publicly traded investments.
2. Understand what each asset is worth
Some mediators have experience working on high-net-worth cases. Their financial expertise is quite sophisticated. Others do not. A CDFA can help you evaluate what everything is really worth so you can negotiate a fair division of assets.
For instance, keeping a house with a large mortgage and home equity line of credit may be less valuable than half of your spouse's pension. A Roth IRA is worth more than a traditional IRA even though the balances may be similar. A brokerage account that contains securities worth $100,000 may be worth tens of thousands of dollars less once liability for capital gains taxes is factored in.
3. Be open to different ways of slicing the pie
You and your spouse may have different financial priorities. Through mediation, you can find creative ways to slice the pie to best meet everyone's needs.
This is something a judge may not be able to do. A CDFA can model various scenarios – accounting for current and future values – to help you achieve a financially favorable outcome.
4. Consult legal counsel before signing your settlement agreement
CDFAs provide financial analysis, not legal advice.
There will be times when you may need to consult a mediation-friendly attorney to understand your legal rights regarding property, child support, or alimony. The attorney will find the CDFA's analysis helpful and will be able to zero in on items that should be modified to strengthen your marital settlement before you sign it.
Frequently Asked Questions About Financial Advisors in Mediation
Why involve a financial advisor in divorce mediation?
A financial advisor helps you understand how different settlement choices affect your present and future. They clarify budgets, assets, debts, taxes, and retirement planning.
How is a financial advisor different from a mediator or lawyer?
Mediators guide conversations and agreements. Lawyers explain your rights and obligations. Financial advisors translate complex numbers into clear scenarios so you see the impact of your decisions.
What issues can a financial advisor help with in mediation?
They can assist with dividing property and debts, evaluating retirement accounts, reviewing tax consequences, estimating support payments, and building a realistic budget.
Do both spouses use the same financial advisor in mediation?
Sometimes couples share one neutral advisor. In other cases, each spouse may bring their own to ensure the settlement is fair from both perspectives.
Will a financial advisor attend mediation sessions?
Yes. Advisors can join sessions, run calculations, and explain financial outcomes during negotiations.
How do I choose the right financial advisor for mediation?
Pick someone experienced in divorce work, preferably with a CDFA certification. Choose an advisor who communicates clearly and focuses on practical, sustainable solutions.
How to Work with a Financial Advisor in Divorce Mediation
Clarify your financial goals
Decide what matters most—keeping your home, protecting retirement savings, or balancing monthly expenses.
Gather your financial documents
Collect income records, bank and loan statements, retirement accounts, and property records.
Share documents with your advisor
Provide organized paperwork so your advisor can analyze your finances and prepare settlement scenarios.
Review settlement scenarios
Have your advisor model different outcomes to see how each option affects your cash flow, taxes, and future stability.
Participate in mediation with your advisor
Lean on your advisor to interpret numbers, run calculations, and support negotiations during sessions.
Finalize and plan ahead
Work with your advisor to confirm the settlement supports your financial well-being and create a plan for life after divorce.
Related: Which Type of Mediation Will Work Best for You? The Three Types, Explained
Looking for support from a CDFA in your mediation or divorce? Laurie offers a $50 discount to the Hello Divorce community. Visit her website, MediationMoneyMentor, and mention "Hello Divorce" when you contact her.
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