Divorce Doesn’t Have to Suck
Are you and your spouse or domestic partner willing to work together to dissolve your marriage in a fair and cooperative way?
Mediation may be a really good option for you. Meetings are scheduled online and are conducted via Zoom conferencing. You can see and interact with your mediator in the comfort of your own space and at a time that works for you. A unique feature we offer, so long as both parties are working to be productive, we offer unlimited mediation hours to make sure your issues are resolved. Once agreements are reached and your case is settled, your forms are prepared and processed with the court. All that is left for you to do is start on the next chapter of your life!
What is Mediation?
Mediation is an opportunity for you and your ex to create an outcome that is guided but not bound by California Family Law rules. In a mediative process, you can decide what is best for you and your family by designing an agreement that is tailored to your lives and unique situation. The mediator doesn’t represent either of you but is invested in shaping an answer that meets your joint and individual goals and will contribute legal expertise in helping you get there.
How does Mediation work?
Mediation is an opportunity for you and your ex to create an outcome that is guided but not bound by Family Law rules. Through mediation, you can decide what is best for you and your family by designing an agreement that is tailored to your lives and unique situation. The mediator doesn’t represent either of you but is invested in shaping an answer that meets your joint and individual goals and will contribute legal expertise in helping you get there.
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Step 1: Prepare
Gather your documents and prepare to talk about your issues/disputes with the mediator. Whether you are mediating a single issue or your entire divorce, it is important to be prepared with your thoughts, documents and questions.
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Step 2: Mediate
In your first session with an LFLG mediator, you will identify and prioritize the issues that need attention and triage any issues that require immediate (if only temporary) solutions: how will the credit card get paid?; what will the schedule be like with the kids? Divorce is a time of transition -– reaching agreements in mediation for transitional issues can help give you some control and certainty in a difficult process.
Then you will make a plan for dealing with the other issues and start working toward resolution. In each session, the mediator will take careful notes and will follow up with any Agreements you reached or action items/tasks you agreed to before the next session. Depending on the complexity of the issues in your case, this may take one or two sessions, or it may take several more. If Hello Divorce or LFLG is also preparing your divorce documents, you will agree about when and how that process will be initiated (if it hasn’t been already).
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Step 3: Finalize Agreements
Once you have resolved your issue(s), the mediator will put all of the Agreements in writing for your review and signatures. This may be your Judgment of Dissolution or an interim or post-Judgment Stipulation and Order. Once approved by the Judge, your written Agreement will become an Order of the Court.
Is Mediation right for me (us)?
Mediation is a cooperative process that is right for couples who share the same goal -– to reach a resolution. That doesn’t mean you agree (yet) about every issue and it definitely doesn’t mean mediation is an easy or unemotional process. It doesn’t even mean that you like each other anymore. But it does mean that you both believe there is a better way to divorce than fighting in court and letting a judge make decisions for you.
You might think mediation isn’t for you because you and your ex have a hard time being in the same room. Or you don’t see eye to eye about who is going to keep the house. Or maybe you feel hurt and emotional because your ex wanted a divorce and you didn’t. Having the professional advice of an LFLG mediator can help you navigate the emotions, find common ground, search for a value-added resolution and maybe, just maybe, bring you back some peace of mind.
Whether you are just getting started with your divorce process and want help preparing your documents and navigating negotiations, or you have already initiated your divorce and you and your ex have reached an impasse about an issue, a mediator can help you and your ex to move toward resolution.