Divorce Doesn’t Have to Suck
Do you and your spouse or domestic partner want to work together to dissolve your marriage in a fair and cooperative way?
Mediation may be a really good option for you. Meetings are scheduled online and conducted via Zoom conferencing. You see and interact with your mediator in the comfort of your own space at a time that works for you. Once agreements are reached and your case is settled, your forms are prepared and processed with the court. All that’s left for you to do is begin the next chapter of your life! https://hellodivorce.com/our-process/book-your-15-minute-call/
What is mediation?
Mediation provides an opportunity for you and your spouse to create an outcome that is guided but not bound by your area’s family law rules. In a mediative process, you decide what is best for you and your family by designing an agreement tailored to your unique situation. The mediator doesn’t represent either of you. Instead, they contribute their legal expertise and help shape a solution that meets your joint and individual goals.
Step 1: Prepare
Gather your documents, and prepare to talk about your issues or disputes with the mediator. Whether you are mediating a single issue or your entire divorce, have your thoughts and questions ready.
Step 2: Mediate
In your first session with your mediator, you will identify and prioritize issues that need attention and triage issues that require immediate (if only temporary) solutions. For example, how will the credit card get paid? What will the schedule be like with the kids?
Divorce is a time of transition. Reaching agreements in mediation for transitional issues gives you control and certainty during a difficult process.
Then, you will plan how to deal with the other issues and start working toward a resolution. In each session, the mediator will take careful notes and follow up on any agreements and action items. Depending on the complexity of your case, this may take one or two sessions—or several more.
If Hello Divorce is also preparing your divorce documents, you will agree about when and how that process will be initiated (if it hasn’t been already).
Step 3: Finalize agreements
Once you resolve your issue(s), the mediator will put all of the agreements in writing for your review and signatures. This may be your Judgment of Dissolution or an interim or post-Judgment Stipulation and Order.
When the judge approves your written agreement, it will become an Order of the Court.
Is Mediation right for me (us)?
Mediation is a cooperative process for couples who share the same goal: to reach a resolution.
That doesn’t mean you agree (yet) about every issue, and it doesn’t mean mediation is an easy or unemotional process. It doesn’t even mean that you like each other anymore. But it does mean that you both believe there is a better way to divorce than fighting in court and giving a judge the power to make your decisions for you.
You might think mediation isn’t for you because you and your ex have a hard time being in the same room. Or because you don’t see eye to eye about who keeps the house. Maybe you feel hurt and emotional because your ex wanted a divorce and you didn’t.
The professional advice of a mediator can help you navigate your emotions, find common ground, search for a value-added resolution, and maybe, just maybe, bring you back some peace of mind.
Whether you’re beginning your divorce and want help preparing your documents or you’ve initiated your divorce but cannot agree on an issue with your spouse, a mediator can help you find a resolution.