After the dust settles, you and your ex will one day both find yourselves ready to take up dating after divorce. And when that happens, there will come a point when you’re ready to introduce your new partner to your kids.
Every family is different, but in a co-parenting relationship, it’s typically a good idea to introduce your new partner to your ex before you introduce them to the kids. Doing this thoughtfully and in a way that is empathetic – especially to an ex who might be surprised or hurt when they learn you’re moving forward – will save a lot of heartache. And taking these thoughtful steps will make things easier on your new relationship, and on your kids, in the long run.
Whether you’re introducing a new partner, meeting a new partner, or are the new partner, our worksheet will help you prepare for this meeting, while considering the potential concerns and points of view from everyone else involved.
Dating after divorce?
What if the shoe were on the other foot?
Think about it this way: if your ex met someone new – and things got serious – wouldn’t you want to be high on the list of people who knew? You’d certainly want to meet this person before your kids met them. And you’d probably want to talk through an approach to breaking the news, in a way that reiterates to the kids that their family isn’t changing; it’s growing.
Our worksheet will help you approach any dating scenario – whether you’re the new partner, the ex meeting a new partner, or the new significant other stepping into the picture – with empathy, understanding and humility toward the situation and the other people involved.
Because guess who’s watching your reactions, and your behavior to see how they should act once they meet the new partner? (Spoiler alert: it’s your kids.)