Step 3: Written Agreement + Judgment Forms
There are different ways the two of you can come to an agreement.
- Start with our Divorce Worksheet to ensure you know all the issues that need to be resolved before you finalize your divorce. Consider speaking with a lawyer to flesh out your various positions or calculate support prior to negotiating with your spouse.
- Get more information: Something missing? Ask your spouse to disclose informally. If that doesn’t work, consider a more formal process to obtain the information you need (we can help!)
- Negotiate, mediate, or litigate: Negotiation can be by email, in person or with a consulting attorney. Mediation is usually with an experienced, neutral family law mediator who can guide you through the process and help you and your spouse come to an agreement on all the substantive issues (think: kids, support, property and debt). Litigation is your last resort – if the two of you just can’t come to an agreement that feels fair and reasonable.
Your Divorce Judgment is a Big Deal
If there is one part of your divorce to focus on, this is it. No part of your divorce will matter more. Having the best of intentions without educating yourself on your rights is doing yourself a huge disservice. The terms in your divorce judgment can have a profound impact on your future, and if you are anything like us — you want to move past this point in your life with a fresh, strong start — transition to a new, healthier, mindful space.
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Submitting Your Judgment
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A Few Final Notes…
Your divorce will be complete after your Judgment is filed - but there’s still a few steps you should take to ensure that you and your family are financially protected.
- If you would like to legally change your last name to your maiden name, look no further! This resource gives you all the details for getting that accomplished.
- Make sure that the Qualified Domestic Relations Order (QDRO) is entered and implemented (if there is a provision in your Judgment that provides retirement account(s) will be divided by QDRO). Look to our resources, What is a QDRO and Understanding QDROs for more.
- Change your beneficiaries (life, health, pay on death accounts, etc.) assuming it doesn’t conflict with your Divorce Judgment.
- Change title and mortgage information (may need to refinance) to your residence to reflect the name of the spouse who the asset was assigned to. If you are "deferring sale" (holding off on selling or transferring the home until a date certain), you should consider severing joint tenancy or changing title to reflect tenants-in-common so that you each hold a 50% interest in the home.
- Update your will or other estate planning documents including power of attorney and/or advanced health care directive.
- Notify your auto insurer of any changes in automobile drivers, ownership and addresses.
- Remove your name from any debts or loans that are no longer your responsibility (to the extent possible).
- If you change jobs, notify your new employer of any court ordered support you currently pay through automatic withholding (wage garnishment).
- Celebrate how far you have come! Divorce is a marathon - not a sprint. You've worked hard to get here and we wish you the best in your next chapter.